#StillBisexual kicks off online campaign telling bisexual stories

For a while now, Nicole Kristal has been tired of trying to explain herself. She’s dating a man, "Oh, are you straight now?" She’s dating a woman, "Oh, are you a lesbian now?" No, she’s still bisexual.

And #StillBisexual launched Wednesday, (Jan. 21) and even on its first day is being passed around enthusiastically on Twitter and on their Facebook page. It’s a very simple project. Find some cards, talk about the first time your were aware of your sexuality, and post it and share it and show people that with all your other quirks and distractions and interactions, you are #StillBisexual.
“I hope to change the perception that bisexual orientation is static,” says Kristal. “I get so sick of people asking me the question. I am still bisexual, and I have been for 20 years, and I want people to know that.”

Kristal is 37 and not in a relationship at the moment, so she can imagine what it’s like for her friends who are in committed same-sex or opposite sex relationships. She loves the fact that out bisexual actress Anna Paquin had to explain it all to Larry King in an interview, that although she is married and with a family and monogamous, she is also “Still Bisexual.” (Kristal hopes that Paquin may join in on the campaign at some point, too.)

“If it’s bad for me, I can't imagine what it’s like for people in various kinds of relationships who are committed bisexuals,” says Kristal. "They are assumed to be gay, lesbian or straight all the time just based on the identity of their partner."
And so, even though she’s thought of this idea long before the ALS water-dunking campaign and other viral ideas, Kristal hopes that people will join in and post their stories and share them with the world.

So, if you’re ready to join in, it’s very simple:
• Think out your bisexual story
• Start off with the day, year or age you came out as gay, straight and then realized you were bisexual
• Record yourself (she did it on her computer) flipping over the cards
• Keep the whole story to less than two minutes
• End it with the card #StillBisexual and encourage others to share
• Post your story on YouTube and tweet the link out with the #StillBisexual hashtag
• Share it on the Facebook page: “Still Bisexual” at https://www.facebook.com/StillBiDealWithIt oh, and there's a website http://stillbisexual.com
• Tell everyone and start the revolution
Or at least, just share the link, or share some of the stories you like best or most identify with.

Kristal was an out bisexual in college and became an activist. She co-authored the winner of the first Bisexual award given by the Lambda Literary Awards (with me, who also did a video on the #StillBisexual site). It’s called “The Bisexual’s Guide to the Universe: Quips, Tips and Lists for Those Who go Both Ways” and it’s now available online, too.

“I want people who have a confident bisexual identity to share their stories and show we are out there,” says Kristal. “Maybe someday people will finally take our word for it once and for all.”

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10 Fights Lesbian and Bisexual Girl Couples Get Into

Let's be real. Every couple fights. It's definitely not rainbows and glitter every day. The good news is that where there are fights there is also make-up sex. Check out eight fights every lesbian/bisexual couple have!

1. Celebrity Crushes and Ships 
Whether you are on team Piper and Alex or Piper and Larry. Ships are absolutely not to be messed with and if you don't both agree on who should be with who on your favorite show, a fight is inevitable.

2. Money!
 Being told, or telling someone to cool it on spending is a touchy subject for any couple. 

3. When to U-Haul
When you should actually move in together. Yes, female couples are stereotyped as bringing a U-Haul on the second date. If you make it past the that date without moving in and you aren't on the same page about timing when to move in together can quickly turn into a blowout fight.

4. Being introduced as her "roommate" at work events.
If your girlfriend/partner isn't completely out of the closet yet, this can often lead to a few arguments along the way. Although being supportive of her feelings is important, it sucks to feel as though you don't exist. This is a tough one.

5. The Bathroom 
Who gets first use of the bathroom and the blow dryer, straightener, curling iron, brush, comb, and every other hair tool in your house? Getting ready in the morning is hard enough without having an all out fight about which one of you gets first dibs. 

6. The Cat 
Who takes care of the stray kitty you now love and adore? Surely your girlfriend can take care of the litter box ... maybe you'll get to it next week.

7. Clothes
Whether it be that favorite t-shirt you both share or the sweats that feel like they are made for your body. We all fight about who can wear what when.

8. Sex 
Sex. Sex may be the end reward for resolving a fight but it also causes plenty of them. Where? When? And how often and who does what, are always hot buttons...literally and figuratively!

9. Kids 
This is a super tricky subject for some, and one you'll get into before long if either you or your partner has a incredibly active biological clock that needs attention. 

10. Fighting About Fighting 
That fight that will continue for days or weeks to come. If you hit a hot button, be prepared to sleep on the couch for weeks until your girl has truly cooled off. You're in luck though ... once she has cooled off it is time for make-up sex!