53 People Who Came Out This Year

We're always glad when anyone comes out, although it's particularly noteworthy when well-known people do. They provide role models for young LGBT people and drive home the message that we are everywhere, while usually enhancing their own lives in the process — living openly and honestly is good for the soul.

We're looking back at some famous folks who’ve come out as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, pansexual, or fluid this year. Of course, you don’t have to be famous for your coming-out to make an impact. When people know someone who is LGBT, they’re far more likely to support our rights. “Every person who speaks up changes more hearts and minds, and creates new advocates for equality,” notes the Human Rights Campaign, which offers coming-out resources here.

Click through to see the variety of people who’ve come out this year — actors, athletes, musicians, clergy members, politicians, and more.
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How to Get Away With Murder: Viola Davis character revealed as bisexual

MeetBi.com - Success stories from our members, would you have try?

Ain't love grand? We love to celebrate the success of our members! Post your great date story, engagement announcement or anniversary on this page. We define "success" as anyone who benefits from our site in aspects of marriage, faith, friends, and romance.

At meetbi.com, we're excited and proud of all of our successful couples! We hope that you too will be the next to add your story to our ever-growing collection. 

If you met someone wonderful through MeetBi.com, we'd love to hear your news, Congratulations ! If not, find success at MeetBi.com now!  
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We are totally satisfied with your website :-) we have met some great people here. We are deleteing this account only

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Actor Griffin Dunne outs his famous writer dad Dominick Dunne as bisexual

The sexuality of Dominick Dunne has been widely speculated, but after the writer's death in 2009, his son made it very clear that his father was bisexual. Dunne's son is Griffin Dunne, most famous for "An American Werewolf in London" and the more recent "Dallas Buyer's Club." It was on "Good Morning America" on ABC that the younger Dunne talked about his father's sexuality.

What's interesting is that Dominick Dunne catered to the gossip mill, especially for Vanity Fair, where he wrote celebrity-oriented articles for more than 25 years. He wrote about the great scandals of the day, including the O.J. Simpson case, Claus von Bülow, Imelda Marcos, the Lyle and Erik Menendez murder trial, Adnan Khashoggi, William Kennedy Smith’s rape trial, the death of multi-billionaire banker Edmond Safra, Brooke Astor’s neglect by her son, Phil Spector’s murder trial, the Princess Diana inquest and Monica Lewinsky. Dunne wrote books such as The Two Mrs. Grenvilles, People Like Us, An Inconvenient Woman, A Season in Purgatory, and Another City, Not My Own.

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I have recently met with two women from this site, though the actual connectionswere made through each of their partners (ironic!) on an alternative (swing-focused)lifestyle site we subscribed to.

I appreciate MeetBi's structure and search options, and to read the many profiles of such interesting people from all walks of life. So many women have hidden their sexual identity in the shadows--the Internet age has opened up many hearts and minds, with greater capacity to connect with folks around the globe. It's empowering to feel less isolated, and completely open and communicative in a safe, secure and easily accessible environment. 

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Shut up Ted Haggard--you give bisexuals a bad name

Shut up Ted Haggard--you give bisexuals a bad name
How appropriate that the hypocritical pastor Ted Haggard is appearing with his wife, Gayle, on "Divorce Court" on April Fool's Day.

Haggard is the pastor who was ousted after being outed from the large National Association of Evangelicals and the New Life Church in Colorado Springs. He was noted for condemning the gay life, but secretly he was seeing a male prostitute.

After denying at first about doing anything gay, Haggard, who has five children, finally confessed and resigned his lofty post as preacher. Then

Bisexual people report poorer wellbeing than those of other sexualities

Being bisexual 'is bad for your health': People with male and female partners report poorer wellbeing than those of other sexualities

  • People of different sexualities were asked to rate their health by experts
  • Some 19.5% of bisexual men and 18.5% of bisexual women rated their health as 'poor or fair,' the highest proportion among all the groups polled
  • Were also disproportionately disadvantaged on factors linked with health 
  • Health of bisexual adults differs substantially from other minorities and should be studied individually, experts concluded 

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Are they more likely to be left-handed and go on beach holidays?

Cara Delevingne on Being Bisexual: It's 'Not a Phase'

Supermodel Cara Delevingne is setting the record straight.

After her Vogue July cover issue caused controversy when writer Rob Haskell suggested that dating women might be "a phase" for her, the 22-year-old British star spoke out about her sexuality in an interview with The New York Times. Cara is currently dating 32-year-old singer Annie Clark, who goes by the stage name St. Vincent.

"My sexuality is not a phase," she stressed to the newspaper. "I am who I am."
That being said, she also noted that she saw "nothing malicious" in the article itself.

Ménage à Trois - Threesomes and Rules

To indulge in a successful ménage à trois, you need to know the real rules of threesome sex. Now there are no hard and fast rules, but a few guidelines can definitely help you have a great time.
The ground rules of ménage à trois

To actually enact a fantasy like a ménage à trois, you need a third person who’s willing to share the bed with you. It’s usually preferable to involve someone who’s not a friend or a co-worker. I mean, really, what if your partner and your friend end up meeting often and have sex without you?

However, if it’s trust and safety that you care about while having a threesome, you could use a good friend that you know will not let the word spread.
Comfort is the key to a good ménage à trois.
If you want to make sure

Why Does Vogue Think Bisexuality Is a Phase?


Bisexual advocates are calling foul on Vogue after a profile of model turned actress Cara Delevingne insinuated Delevinge’s sexuality might be a “phase.”

In fact, more than 18,600 people have signed a petition launched by a bisexual woman, asking Vogue's editor in chief, Anna Wintour, for an apology and to recognize that "being LGBT isn't a 'phase!'"

In the cover story for the July issue, Delevinge told Vogue writer Rob Haskell she started to question her sexuality as a young girl.

“It took me a long time to accept the idea, until I first fell in love with a girl at 20 and recognized that I had to accept it,” Delevingne told Vogue. “But I have erotic dreams only about men. I had one two nights ago where I went up to a guy in the back of a VW minivan, with a bunch of his friends around him, and pretty much jumped him.”

Our Top 5 Bisexual Dating Picks of 2015

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YouTube star Shane Dawson makes the world cry as he comes out as bisexual

Shane Dawson has changed the world with just one post on his YouTube post. Sure, a lot of people thought he was a gay-ish, funny, cute Internet personality. Teens love him.
But, he was hiding a secret. He had a three-year relationship with a girl named Lisa. And, he was also seeing guys. In a teary, funny, heart-felt coming out to his six million followers, the 26-year-old media star who has been a familiar face to many, came out as bisexual.

“I have been sexually confused,” he says. He wishes he was 100 percent gay because it would be easier. He wears wigs, dons dresses and camps it up online, but he adds, “I’m not completely gay. I am bisexual.”
Online, it’s the first time he said that out loud, except to his therapist.
The director of the American Institute of Bisexuality, John Sylla, reached out to congratulate Dawson and thanked him for his positive message. "I haven't seen anything like this before," he said.

Lots of bisexual stuff in ‘Magic Mike XXL’—especially among the ladies


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This time, the horny ladies who are whipped up into frenzies because of male crotches ground in their faces are so hot they’re turning on each other. There are a few women who are kissing each other, and it’s a bit of a shock.

Jada Pinkett Smith plays Rome, who runs a strip club at a private estate where mostly African-American women are being serviced by black male dancers. “You are all queens!” she screams to her black sisters, who are of all shapes, sizes and ages. Then, the girls go crazy when the guys sing and strip for them.

Later, when Rome leaves her comfortable confines and goes out of her way to help out Mike (played by the irrepressibly handsome Channing Tatum), she runs across Paris, (played by Elizabeth Banks) who is running the stripper convention.
As soon as they see each other, Rome and Paris walk up to each other and embrace in a very sexy long lip-lock. Mike and the guys are a big shocked at the apparent history between these two gals.

Bisexual women reveal frustrations of being attracted to men and women

'People think you're either a cheater or a swinger': Bisexual women reveal the frustrations of being attracted to men AND women in secret confessions

  • Bisexual users of secret-sharing app Whisper confessed to their struggles
  • Many women said their sexuality isn't take seriously by friends or lovers
  • Sexpert Tracey Cox says women should stop labelling themselves 

    Bisexuality has become a heated talking point this week in the wake of a Vogue interview that suggested Cara Delevingne's attraction to women could be a 'phase'.

    But according to

Dating Etiquette in the Bi Lesbian Community

Bi and Lesbian dating etiquette is quite similar to that of heterosexual rules. With that being said, there are some differences that will arise when dating the same gender, but they are easily overcome with time and experience.

If you are finding that you are having a hard time getting dates, or keeping the interest of a lady, there may be some considerations you should make. Determining why you would like to date is important. Whether it be to avoid being lonely, for a sexual relationship, or for a long term commitment, knowing why you are actively seeking a date can help you narrow down your choices. Be sure that your partner understands your intentions by being open and honest. Play head games will get you nowhere in the world of lesbian dating.

First dates are often the scariest, but they should not be. When meeting someone for the first time, it is important that you let someone know where you are going and when you will return. This is for your own safety, especially if you met your date on an online lesbian or bi dating website. Conduct the date in a public place, such as dinner in a nice restaurant, or a local coffee shop if you are meeting earlier in the day.

If your date is shy and feeling awkward on your first date, it is a sign that you should take the lead. With women couples, it can sometimes be difficult to determine who should be the dominate one. Men generally take this role in a heterosexual relationship, but women may find it too overbearing to "grab the bull by the horns." Typically, your date will appreciate you being the one to take charge, especially if she doesn't seem interested in leading the event.

How do you tell your parents you are bisexual?

Bisexual's Guide to the Universe authors Nicole Kristal and Mike SzymanskiComing out to your parents is one of the toughest things. Some of it is funny, but some is very serious, too. Good luck.


Since coming out as a bisexual in Genre magazine two decades ago, I've experienced an equal amount of support and scorn. I was amazed at the wave of disbelief, surprise, even anger. (A letter from a complete stranger made a pretty convincing argument that I was, in fact, a lesbian.) I got strong support, but even one of my best non-gay women friends pointed out, "You've never talked about this directly."

It's true, I was always purposely ambiguous. When I was straight, I paraded my girlfriend around like a trophy. When I "came out" as gay five years ago, I did so with a vengeance -- moving to West Hollywood and adopting an in-your-face attitude toward anyone with even a faint whiff of homophobia. But then, the unexplainable happened. After putting my friends and family through the wrist-wringing angst of coming out, I was seeing a woman.

I made excuses: "I'm just a gay man who happens to be dating a woman" I told my homo friends. "I was never really satisfied with men," I told my hetero friends. The reality is, I'm embarrassed by the bisexual label. It has the connotation of promiscuity, hiding and sexual schizophrenia.

Most people think that being bisexual is a step before they come to grips with identifying themselves as gay or lesbian. For me, calling myself gay was a step to realizing that there is such a thing as being bisexual.

A poignant letter came from a friend who wrote there were definite signs that I was gay, but I talked about dating women in a way that didn't seem it was for her benefit.

She defined her hetero confusion as: "Bisexuals tend not to make announcements or talk about their duality and it seems rude to ask, and we -- people in general -- want to easily identify people. I am a woman. I am white. I am a writer. I am heterosexual. From all of these you can easily draw some conclusions about me. Bisexuality throws all of that off."

She's right. The most-asked question I've had is: "Aren't you still attracted to men?"

The answer is a resounding "YES!" Of course! When you guys are in a love-of-your-life coupling don't you occasionally turn your head for a buffed chest? When you gals are arm-in-arm with your partner don't you find your heart flutter a bit when a tight-thighed damsel strolls past? When a straight guy marries, does he suddenly become a eunuch? Of course not.

So, why is it so hard to understand that a bisexual can be sexually fulfilled with one partner?

My best gay friend seemed surprised that I was seeing a woman after all the "informational training" he'd given me about gay life and its history. I once worshipped his relationship as the perfect gay pairing. Then, his boyfriend of five years left him for a woman. During their relationship, the boyfriend said he needed to fulfill a "physical need" to go out with women, and that, I think, was the problem. The boyfriend may be one of those who are inheritently non-monogamous, or perhaps he was shopping around for a more societal-accepting relationship because he hated being gay. My friend has vowed never to date a bisexual again.

My mom—who came with me to the 1993 March on Washington and lectured with me at the Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays’ national conference—excused my dad’s concerns. “If you’re born that way and you can’t choose, that’s something we can accept, but if you like both, then you do have a choice, and he takes it personally if you choose a guy.”

My dad was more succinct, “If you can choose, why would you choose the wrong way?”

When I came out as gay, he hung his head in faux despair and told neighbors it was something I couldn’t help. It was as if I had lost a leg.
The bottom line for Dad’s irrational attitude toward me is the very same reason I’m criticized by friends in the homosexual community—my chosen “family.” My gay friends complain, “You’re embarrassing (or diluting) ‘the family’” or say, “Being bi is fine with me, but don’t tell anyone else if you expect to get a date.”

It’s true, for a group that’s stereotyped as being so promiscuous, my dating life has hit the skids since I’ve been openly bi. Straight women don’t dare touch me, and gay men shun me because they think I’ll eventually leave them for the “easy” relationship. Truth is, I’ve always sought a monogamous relationship with either a man or a woman and have wanted to raise children with that partner no matter what they have or don’t have between their legs.
It is always tough to make the parents understand. See the video above on how some people handle it.

Entertainment for Bisexual Book Awards is announced

Performers for the Third Annual Bisexual Book AwardsThe Third Annual Bisexual Book Awards, which is organized by the Bi Writers Association, has announced its performers and we have the inside scoop. The program consists of readings by finalists of the Bisexual Book Awards, projected art, live music and an art photography presentation capped off with the Bisexual Book Awards Ceremony and an after-party that all takes place in New York City's Greenwich Village.



The Bisexual Book Awards will be returning to Westbeth Community Room (55 Bethune W. of Washington), a location favored by attendees last year. Doors open at 6:30. More venue and schedule details can be found on the Bi Writers Association website, as well as Facebook or Meetbi, where you can also RSVP. Tickets are $15 at the door.
Below are the details on all the performers so read on...
Dr. Herukhuti
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Dr. Herukhuti

An emerging voice in bisexuality studies, Dr. Herukhuti is helping people understand the complexities and power relations embedded in sexuality, race, gender, class and culture through his writing, lectures, performances and workshops. He is Chief Erotics Officer (CEO) of Center for Culture, Sexuality and Spirituality and editor-in-chief of sacredsexualities.org.
Dr. Herukhuti plans to read the powerful "Preface" to "Recognize: The Voices of Bisexual Men" co-edited with long-time bi activist Robyn Ochs.
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Courtney Moreno
Courtney Moreno Lydia Daniller

Courtney Moreno

Courtney Moreno’s award-winning writing has been published in LA Weekly and Best American Nonrequired Reading. She received a B.S. in molecular biology from the University of California, Berkeley, and an M.F.A. in creative writing from the University of San Francisco. During the ten years in between, she worked as an entomologist’s assistant, lab technician, clinical research coordinator, stagehand, set carpenter, modern and aerial dancer, EMT, and field training officer. She lives in San Francisco.
Moreno will be reading from her novel "In Case Of Emergency" about life as a female EMT and falling in love with another woman who is a vet with PTSD.
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Vivek Shraya
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Vivek Shraya

Vivek Shraya is a multimedia artist, writer, and performer. His YA collection God Loves Hair was shortlisted for a Lambda Literary Award; a new edition was published by Arsenal Pulp Press in 2014. His first novel She of the Mountains was also published in 2014. He lives in Toronto.
Shraya will read from "She of the Mountains," his combination re-imagined Hindu mythology/contemporary love story. Illustrations from the book will simultaneously be projected.
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Nora Olsen
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Nora Olsen

Nora Olsen is the author of the YA novels "Frenemy of the People," "Swans & Klons," and "The End: Five Queer Kids Save the World." Her next book, "Maxine Wore Black," is forthcoming from Bold Strokes Books/Soliloquy in October 2014. She lives in New York’s Hudson Valley with her girlfriend and two cats.
Olsen will read from her recent YA novel, "Frenemy of the People" combining a girl-girl love story of opposites attracting with a revenge scheme against the bank that foreclosed on one girl's family home.
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Geer Austin
Geer Austin Sheela Lambert

Geer Austin

Geer Austin is the author of Cloverleaf, a poetry chapbook from Poets Wear Prada Press. His poetry and fiction has appeared in online and print journals and anthologies. He lives in Brooklyn, NY.
Austin will read his story about a teenage bromance in the 60's, "Naked in the World," his contribution to "Best Bi Short Stories."
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Laura Foley
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Laura Foley

Laura Foley is the author of four poetry collections. Joy Street was released in July, 2014. The Glass Tree won ForeWord’s Book of the Year Award (Silver) and was Finalist for New Hampshire Writer’s Project, Outstanding Book of Poetry. She lives with her partner on a woody hill in Vermont.
Foley will be reading her poetry from Joy Street of a widow who finds new love with a woman.
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A.R. Fiano
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A.R. Fiano

AR Fiano, author of the Gabriel's World series, is a New York City-based author, teacher and LGBT youth advocate. She has past careers in nonprofit advocacy, civil rights law, and teaching philosophy, law, and Eastern religion in various colleges.
Fiano will read from her mystery novel, "The Book of Joel," the third in the Gabriel's World Series.
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Ann Herendeen
Ann Herendeen Pauline Park

Ann Herendeen

Ann Herendeen is the author of: novels Phyllida and the Brotherhood of Philander, and Pride/Prejudice, a Lambda Literary Award finalist for Bisexual Fiction, both published by HarperCollins; short story, A Charming Ménage (Gay City Anthology 4, At Second Glance); e-book fantasy series, "Lady Amalie's memoirs," which chronicles m/m/f family life.
Herendeen will read the vampire story "Angels Dance" by James Williams as a tribute to the Best Bi Short Stories contributor, who passed away in Oct of 2014.
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Gymnos Alitheia
Gymnos Alitheia Efrain Gonzalez

Gymnos Alitheia

Gymnos Alitheia is not the name assigned to him at birth. Still, he presents as a cis, bi, nudist; visual artist and model; underground poet, community organizer and expressive being; an entity based in NYC. This nom de plume translates from Greek as "Naked Truth." And so it is from the dual impulses to express from a vulnerable core and to uncover what is unseen, that drives Gymnos' ongoing art project.
Alitheia will present a collection of photos from his "Full Disclosure" series.
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Rorie Kelly
Rorie Kelly Bylan Darson 2014

Rorie Kelly

Rorie Kelly is a small redheaded tornado of sound. Her aggressive acoustic guitar style complements raw, powerhouse vocals to pack a serious punch. First-time listeners often comment, "I can't believe that voice came out of that body." The singer/songwriter has been compared to Alanis Morissette and Janis Joplin for her catchy, melodic songwriting style and raw vocal power. Music, videos, and tour dates are available on her website.
Kelly will play songs from her forthcoming album, "Rising Rising Rising" currently in a crowdfunding campaign on RocketHub.
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Shari Slade
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Shari Slade

Shari Slade writes steamy new adult and contemporary erotic romance.
Slade will read from her Erotic Romance rock & roll novel co-written with Amber Lin, "One Kiss with a Rock Star."
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Sheela Lambert
Sheela Lambert Thai Huynh

Sheela Lambert

Sheela Lambert is director of the Bi Writers Association, the Bisexual Book Awards and the Bi Book Club in NYC. She has published in LGBTQ America Today Encyclopedia, Huffington Post, Advocate.com, Curve Magazine, Gay & Lesbian Review, Lambda Literary Review, Journal of Bisexuality, AfterEllen, and is a veteran bi & LGBT activist, educator and event organizer who resides in New York City. Best Bi Short Stories, her anthology of bisexual short fiction in multiple genres, is a triple finalist for the Lammys, the Bisexual Book Awards & the Rainbow Awards.
Lambert will host the Bisexual Book Awards and its multi-arts program preceding the awards ceremony.

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#StillBisexual kicks off online campaign telling bisexual stories

For a while now, Nicole Kristal has been tired of trying to explain herself. She’s dating a man, "Oh, are you straight now?" She’s dating a woman, "Oh, are you a lesbian now?" No, she’s still bisexual.

And #StillBisexual launched Wednesday, (Jan. 21) and even on its first day is being passed around enthusiastically on Twitter and on their Facebook page. It’s a very simple project. Find some cards, talk about the first time your were aware of your sexuality, and post it and share it and show people that with all your other quirks and distractions and interactions, you are #StillBisexual.
“I hope to change the perception that bisexual orientation is static,” says Kristal. “I get so sick of people asking me the question. I am still bisexual, and I have been for 20 years, and I want people to know that.”

Kristal is 37 and not in a relationship at the moment, so she can imagine what it’s like for her friends who are in committed same-sex or opposite sex relationships. She loves the fact that out bisexual actress Anna Paquin had to explain it all to Larry King in an interview, that although she is married and with a family and monogamous, she is also “Still Bisexual.” (Kristal hopes that Paquin may join in on the campaign at some point, too.)

“If it’s bad for me, I can't imagine what it’s like for people in various kinds of relationships who are committed bisexuals,” says Kristal. "They are assumed to be gay, lesbian or straight all the time just based on the identity of their partner."
And so, even though she’s thought of this idea long before the ALS water-dunking campaign and other viral ideas, Kristal hopes that people will join in and post their stories and share them with the world.

So, if you’re ready to join in, it’s very simple:
• Think out your bisexual story
• Start off with the day, year or age you came out as gay, straight and then realized you were bisexual
• Record yourself (she did it on her computer) flipping over the cards
• Keep the whole story to less than two minutes
• End it with the card #StillBisexual and encourage others to share
• Post your story on YouTube and tweet the link out with the #StillBisexual hashtag
• Share it on the Facebook page: “Still Bisexual” at https://www.facebook.com/StillBiDealWithIt oh, and there's a website http://stillbisexual.com
• Tell everyone and start the revolution
Or at least, just share the link, or share some of the stories you like best or most identify with.

Kristal was an out bisexual in college and became an activist. She co-authored the winner of the first Bisexual award given by the Lambda Literary Awards (with me, who also did a video on the #StillBisexual site). It’s called “The Bisexual’s Guide to the Universe: Quips, Tips and Lists for Those Who go Both Ways” and it’s now available online, too.

“I want people who have a confident bisexual identity to share their stories and show we are out there,” says Kristal. “Maybe someday people will finally take our word for it once and for all.”

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10 Fights Lesbian and Bisexual Girl Couples Get Into

Let's be real. Every couple fights. It's definitely not rainbows and glitter every day. The good news is that where there are fights there is also make-up sex. Check out eight fights every lesbian/bisexual couple have!

1. Celebrity Crushes and Ships 
Whether you are on team Piper and Alex or Piper and Larry. Ships are absolutely not to be messed with and if you don't both agree on who should be with who on your favorite show, a fight is inevitable.

2. Money!
 Being told, or telling someone to cool it on spending is a touchy subject for any couple. 

3. When to U-Haul
When you should actually move in together. Yes, female couples are stereotyped as bringing a U-Haul on the second date. If you make it past the that date without moving in and you aren't on the same page about timing when to move in together can quickly turn into a blowout fight.

4. Being introduced as her "roommate" at work events.
If your girlfriend/partner isn't completely out of the closet yet, this can often lead to a few arguments along the way. Although being supportive of her feelings is important, it sucks to feel as though you don't exist. This is a tough one.

5. The Bathroom 
Who gets first use of the bathroom and the blow dryer, straightener, curling iron, brush, comb, and every other hair tool in your house? Getting ready in the morning is hard enough without having an all out fight about which one of you gets first dibs. 

6. The Cat 
Who takes care of the stray kitty you now love and adore? Surely your girlfriend can take care of the litter box ... maybe you'll get to it next week.

7. Clothes
Whether it be that favorite t-shirt you both share or the sweats that feel like they are made for your body. We all fight about who can wear what when.

8. Sex 
Sex. Sex may be the end reward for resolving a fight but it also causes plenty of them. Where? When? And how often and who does what, are always hot buttons...literally and figuratively!

9. Kids 
This is a super tricky subject for some, and one you'll get into before long if either you or your partner has a incredibly active biological clock that needs attention. 

10. Fighting About Fighting 
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That fight that will continue for days or weeks to come. If you hit a hot button, be prepared to sleep on the couch for weeks until your girl has truly cooled off. You're in luck though ... once she has cooled off it is time for make-up sex!

Bisexual women are forgotten in health statistics, experts say

It is Bisexual Health Awareness month
Bisexual women are often forgotten or overlooked in health statistics.
That's a focus that the The Human Rights Campaign is looking at this month, which is called Bisexual Health Awareness Month.

This well-detailed opinion piece was submitted by Jeff Krehely, Chief Foundation Officer, and Tari Hanneman, Associate Director, Health and Aging Program.

The piece discusses how the Williams Institute, about 9 million Americans identify as LGBT -- and a majority of those are bisexual women. While one in every four people living with HIV in the United States is a woman, we can’t find a single study that identifies how many of them are women who have sex with women. The article points out the LGBT community includes bisexual women, not to mention lesbians who -- for a variety of reasons -- have sex with men. These women are simply discounted in today’s research.

Almost a quarter of bisexual and lesbian women are poor, according to the Williams Institute. There are also high rates of workplace discrimination, harassment and health care inequities faced by these women, and you begin to see why these women should be part of the conversation when it comes to HIV and the LGBT community.

Bisexual performer seeks help for edgy racial performance

Kai Hazelwood likes to "Color Outside the Lines" which is why her new performance piece is called that. The bisexual dancer and dance teacher is hoping to land $3,000 on an online Hatchfund campaign by the end of the day Friday, March 5 for an edgy dance campaign that educates self awareness issues about racism. She has already raised more than $1,000.

"This is particularly timely because of what is happening in the news today," says Hazelwood, pointing out the issues in Fergusen, police racial profiling and the high-profile domestic abuse issues making the news lately.
Her planned performance, “Color Outside the Lines” will be held in the historic Pig ‘n Whistle in Hollywood, Calif. on March 29. It will happen whether or not she raises the money, but she can use some help.

"The show is not passive, it’s rather interactive, which is why it is in a historic location in the heart of Hollywood in an intimate setting," she says. She has already tested the idea a few times.

"It will be like going to a trivia night, but people will talk about race and be honest," Hazelwood says. "People will be forced to say things they don't necessarily want to say, and it could get uncomfortable. I love seeing the audience laughing and then realizing what they are saying and cringing and then hesitating,” she says.
Kai Hazelwood
Kai has 25 years of dance experience including six years at the San Francisco Ballet School, summer programs at Dance Theater of Harlem and the Alvin Ailey School of Dance, and intensive training at the Kirov Ballet in Saint Petersburg, Russia. A former basketball player, she has drawn on her sports, dance, and dance medicine experiences.

“Color Outside the Lines” is a twisted trivia night-meets-dance theater show all about race. "Color Outside the Lines" doesn't attempt to offer any answers about race. Instead, she says, “It is an invitation to explore the funny and also dark parts of ourselves, our understanding of our own racial identity and that of people around us.”

The show is done with three collaborators.:Allison Wyper is someone she has known for eight years and she describes as “a totally brilliant and physical performance artist.” Abel Arias works locally as a comedian in the Comedy Sports LA, and Tasheena Medina is a former student and Kai says, “I’m interested in her voice and aesthetic and wanted to work with her.”

This is an all or nothing campaign meaning that if they don’t reach the $3,000 goal, they get none of the funds. All donations are tax deductible and certain donations offer perks donated by members of the cast.

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It's Bisexual Health Awareness Month, how can you check in on it?

It's Bisexual Health Awareness Month beginning in March, and the Meetbi.com wants you to be healthy all year long.
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There are ways and awareness to check in, and starting today you can find out lots of information. Julia Canfield, the president of the Bisexual Resource Center (BRC) in Boston, Massachusetts, will be spreading the word out through hash-tags, Facebook and other social media. This is the year two of the social media campaign about the health of bisexuals and it was spurred by the bisexual community’s mental health disparities. The BRC studies and information show that the bisexual community remains marginalized and underserved.

There's more depression, suicidality, substance use, anxiety and other mood disorders compared to their heterosexual, gay and lesbian counterparts. The theme this year will incorporate three main values – Intersectionality, Support, and Advocacy – into its campaign.

“Bisexual people have long been impacted by the negative effects of biphobia and bisexual erasure from both LGBTQ and straight communities," Canfield says. "They have also been denied access to critical services and resources that can enhance their mental and emotional well-being. Therefore, Bisexual Health Awareness Month aims to increase awareness about these issues and feature ways we can effectively address them.”

Bisexual Health Awareness Month will have the following focus themes throughout the four weeks of March:

March 2-6: (Statistics) A focus on current statistics and research data concerning mental health disparities in the bisexual community.

March 9-13: (Intersectionality) An emphasis on how race, ethnicity, class, age, ability, etc., can further impact mental health disparities in the bisexual community, particularly in regards to experiences of oppression and discrimination.

March 16-20: (Resources) A spotlight on current resources and creation of new ones that can address mental health disparities in the bisexual community.

March 23-27: (Action) The promotion and development of interventions, policies, and other activities that work to prevent or decrease mental health disparities in the bisexual community.

Bisexual Health Awareness Month launches on Monday, March 2 on the BRC’s Twitter (with hashtag #bihealthmonth), Facebook, and Tumblr pages.

The Bisexual Resource Center (BRC) has been advocating for bisexual visibility and raising awareness about bisexuality throughout the LGBT and straight communities since 1985. Visit www.biresource.net.

Bisexuality and Divorce

Bisexuality and Divorce
Divorce resulting from one spouse "coming out" to the other, as in being gay, lesbian, bisexual or something other than heterosexual, is gaining notice as an increasing trend. During divorce consultations, many clients confide that the surprising declaration of their spouse's bisexuality plays a major role in their decision to divorce.


Stories of discovering an infidelity with a same-sex partner vary, but tend to be similar in nature - a husband comes home early from work to find his wife in bed with another woman - followed by a divorce. In many cases the straight spouse feels alone and confused with the revelation that their spouse is gay, lesbian or bisexual. This situation is more common than previously thought.

How the straight spouse reacts depends on his or her previous awareness or knowledge of the partner's tendencies toward a different sexuality. Some are totally shocked, surprised and caught completely off guard by the news. Well-meaning friends and family may add insult to injury by asking the painful question "how could you be unaware of this?" It smacks of a lack of intimacy and poor communication in the relationship.

Many spouses struggling with another sexual orientation may have been experts at hiding it from their partners. Additionally, the couple may have, up until now, enjoyed a very close, committed, loving and sexually fulfilling relationship. It is no wonder that in these cases, the straight spouse is shocked. Other couples have a different experience where the straight partner has had his or her suspicions, but didn't look into it further. In these cases, once the declaration of sexual orientation is made, the straight spouse is not so surprised and may handle the news better, but it can still be a life changing, relationship changing event.

Research shows that approximately two million LBGT people in the U.S. have married someone of the opposite sex. Once a spouse comes "out of the closet" to the other, the probability of staying married long term is very low. One third of these marriages immediately end in divorce, another third separate after only one year, and the last third manage to keep it together for the first three years. Of the last group, half will break up by the end of the third year.

Amity Pierce Buxton Ph.D., the founder of Straight Spouse Network(SSN), whose husband declared he was gay after over 20 years of marriage, says "a spouse's coming out within a marriage is not an individual event. It impacts everyone in the family circle. The straight husband or wife and their children go through their own struggle to understand and accept the revealed information from their perspective. They, too, are affected by the social stigmatization and heterosexist expectations that helped influence their partners to marry."
For the past 24 years Buxton has been studying how a spouse's "coming out" impacts the family. She found that "disclosure and its aftermath within a family occurs in waves, starting with the act of "coming out" (or being discovered) after an internal struggle to acknowledge his or her sexual orientation or gender identity. Once an individual is "out", the second wave begins, as the straight wife or husband deals with what it means. As the two spouses deal with the revelation, each from a different viewpoint, a third wave of "coming out" begins when they tell their children or they find out."

Each 'wave' produces varied responses, depending on whether the revelation is a total shock or a confirmation of previous suspicions. Some spouses feel totally betrayed, confused and question the authenticity of the entire relationship. Others may breathe a sigh of relief, finally understanding the source of problems in the relationship.

When a spouse "comes out" there are three main issues which must be dealt with immediately, according to Buxton; sexuality, the marriage and the children. The straight spouse will experience crisis with their identity within the relationship, as it destroys their sense of who they are. Also the integrity of the relationship, as they now realize and have to deal with the fact that their partner kept their orientation a secret. Finally, the straight spouse's belief system is challenged, as assumptions about gender identity, sexual relationships, marriage and sexuality are shattered and must be redefined.

The children in the family will also go through the "coming out" process along with their parents. Children will require satisfactory explanations and will be forced to re-think their ideas of sexual identity and gender development, especially if they have already formed them, as in the case of middle school aged children. This may result in strong judgmental reactions. Usually, very young children can make the adjustment without too much turmoil or conflict, as they are still in the process of developing their value systems. Older children will most likely manage to deal with and accept the new information without damage to their sexual identity concerns, but this does not mean that they won't express anger, hostility and resentment toward the newly "out" parent.

There are six stages of coping, according to Buxton, that spouses must go through in order to regain their sense of identity, self esteem, faith, forgiveness, acceptance and move on with their lives.

1. Denial, disbelief, disorientation. Denial prevents the straight partner from dealing with the reality of the situation. Once through the initial shock, you may experience relief, finding answers to why the relationship with your spouse didn't seem "quite right."

2. Facing, acknowledging and accepting reality. It is a slow process, but you will make the adjustment to acknowledging the permanence of your spouse's "coming out." The acknowledgement gives birth to accepting the reality as the new "normal".

3. Letting go of the past. The history of your marriage is viewed in a different light now. You may experience grief over the "death" of your old version of the marriage. Once you accept the new reality, you will be free to let go of what you thought the marriage was, and look toward the future.

4. Healing. Once you make that transition and can let go, you will begin to heal. Start with taking care of yourself. Focus your attention on your own wants, needs and values. Anticipate a new perspective or a breakthrough in your thinking.

5. Redefining your integrity, belief system and identity. After going through the first four stages, you are now ready to redefine yourself, recover your self worth, learn to trust again, and gain new perspective and purpose in your life.

6. Transforming your life. Once your identity, belief system and integrity have been redefined, you can move on to attain balance in your emotional, mental and spiritual life. Your can experience and live a new life. You have evolved and expanded your world.

Working through these step will take time. Fear, pain, grief, anger, feelings of abandonment and betrayal may slow down your recovery. If not managed carefully, these emotions can lead to feeling victimized, succumbing to depression and possible thoughts of suicide. It may be wise to see a therapist or counselor to work through these emotions, if you feel you are not making progress.

It can take up to six years to work through these issues, cope effectively and properly heal. The rule of thumb is to allow one year of healing for every five years of marriage. Once you have coped, have gained perspective and can look back at the relationship, you may discover that your spouse had every intention of making your marriage work in the beginning, did not marry you to "hide in the closet" and truly did love you. Perhaps you will become friends and continue to care for each other, even if you do not remain married.

Love yourself on Valentine’s Day


Love yourself on Valentine's Day...and every day!


 
For a bi person, whether or not you are in a relationship, on Valentine’s Day, the most important thing is to love yourself.

Out in the world, there can be a lot of non-acceptance. Maybe your community isn’t bi-friendly. Maybe your family won’t accept that your love and attractions don’t fit in a neat box, or the box of their choosing. Maybe your local gay & lesbian community isn’t bi-friendly either. Maybe there is no bi community in your area. So your acceptance has to come first and foremost from yourself.

Accepting yourself as a bi person is essential to your well-being. Bisexual people (that also includes bi, fluid, pansexual, heteroflexible, homoflexible, people who hate labels or anyone in the bisexual ballpark) who don’t accept themselves are more likely to drink too much, smoke too much, drug too much and have a much higher risk of suicide than the general population, or even lesbian & gay people, who have more support from the lesbian & gay community than bisexual people do.

Love yourself on Valentine’s Day. Or any day.

Join a bi group. If there is none in your area, join one online. Share your issues and concerns with that group. The best antidote for not accepting yourself as bisexual, is being around a group of people who do. Their self-love, self-acceptance, pride in who they are, confidence and sense of being comfortable in their own skin will start to rub off on you. Until you own it yourself.

Start a bi group. If there is no bi group in your area, you can start one. Your local LGBT Center might be supportive and provide free or low-cost space or at least a bulletin board where you can put up fliers. Or you can try starting a group on Meetup. Or advertise in a few local papers—you might be able to get free or affordable event listings and just meet at local cafes, diners or local arts events or fairs. Publish your cell # in case people have questions or if not, stay at the meeting spot for at least an hour to see if people will show up. You can contact other bi groups online for discussion topic suggestions. You can start an email list, Facebook page or Twitter account to announce meetings.

Pamper yourself. If you don’t have a special valentine, be your own. Buy yourself a bouquet of flowers and your favorite chocolates. Bake yourself some heart shaped muffins, brownies or cookies—Michael’s has heart-shaped baking pans. Or get a massage, a facial or a manicure. If you'd rather stay home (and save some cash), give yourself a facial, a manicure or draw yourself a bath with bath oil or bath salts (even basic kitchen sea salt with a few drops of your favorite essential oil will work, if you don’t have bath salts.) Make yourself a Valentine’s card signed with red or pink ink and stickers or glitter.

Treat yourself. Go out to dinner, order dinner in or make yourself a special, heart-healthy dinner: broiled fish and steamed broccoli with lemon and basmati brown rice or a baked sweet potato. See a movie, either at the theater or curled up on the couch.

Read a bisexual book. Immerse yourself in a bisexual world. And tonight, read some bisexual erotica with your favorite vibrational device handy. Sweet dreams!

MEETING BISEXUALS ONLINE

You want to meet bisexuals online in a safe, friendly context. But finding legitimate connections is hard. Despite the best intentions of search engines, the web is lousy with content-light sites about bisexuality that are little more than vehicles for commercial activity.
  • How do you know whether a particular site or forum is safe and legitimate?
  • How can you protect yourself and your information?
  • How can you meet the right people, in the right context, the right way?
Finding a bisexual social site that meets your needs.
Although many people spend tons of time online, we still are hardwired to communicate best face to face. In terms of evolutionary time, it hasn't been that long since we dwelled in caves and small villages. Our minds and bodies are best adapted to those kinds of circumstances – not to online worlds.
That's why it's so much easier to select potential mates in real life. You can joke with people, flirt, engage in telling nonverbal communication, and use other subtle tools (such as input from friends) to assess danger or select prospects.
On the other hand, flirting online can be more intense.
You can spend time to make yourself look better, sound smarter, and react with more poise. The intensity can lead to rapid escalations that you would never get in real life. For instance, 5 minutes after meeting a sexy stranger in a chat room, you might be asked to take off your shirt or pose for a bawdy picture on your webcam.
Elements of uncertainty abound online. Is a potential match lying to about his or her age, gender, occupation, etc? If you send a snapshot of yourself, will the other person use it inappropriately or even try to impersonate you or steal your identity?
To protect yourself, be wary about giving out personal information, such as your full name, your address, where you work, etc.
If you feel even slightly creeped out by someone you meet online, break off contact. It's better to be safe than sorry, and there are plenty of fish in the sea.
Take time between your online contact and real-life meet ups. Don't rush into things. When you go out on dates, start at a public place, and be sure that friends and family know where you are.
Lastly, give yourself some time and opportunities to (safely!) figure out your own process.
Online dating is such a new phenomenon. Even if you read every "how to" article about it on the web and beyond, you'll still need to formulate your own process and revise it over time.
Get feedback based on both good and bad experiences, and compile your own list of best bisexual dating tips.
Lastly, get started! Sign up today here at MeetBi, find a great match and meet some new friends.

HOW TO: THE BEST ONLINE DATING PROFILE PICTURES

Before you can make the best use of a San Francisco or Las Vegas bisexual dating website like MeetBi, get a great online dating profile photograph.
Around 20% of all couples now meet via the web. To join those ranks, you need to position yourself effectively to attract the kind of people that you want to attract from the get go.
For the gentlemen...
  • Avoiding putting up a photo of you with other attractive guys or gals. Not only might this confuse a potential suitor (which one in the photo are you?) but it can also potentially make you look bad by comparison.
  • On the other hand, if you have a picture of you with a cuddly dog or cat, that will work.
  • Avoid using an "artificial seeming" picture – like a professional headshot (too formal) or a Halloween costume or "wacky" photo (too weird – people don't know you yet).
  • Be true to yourself. For instance, if you're an obsessive pianist: by all means, put up a picture of you playing the piano. But if you don't play the piano, why would you do that?
  • Sweat the details. For instance, you might have a great smile in one picture, but if you're wearing disgusting sneakers or ratty jeans, the overall image will be less than ideal.
  • Show your final picture to a few friends for feedback before you throw it up there.
  • Be prepared to iterate. Your first photo might not go so well! Take any feedback you get as potentially useful, and don't take rejections or unflattering comments too personally. You'll find someone!
For the ladies...
  • Avoid trying to be "too weird" out of the gate – no pictures of you with fake mustaches or partying like an animal with your girlfriends or wearing an incy-wincy teeny-weeny yellow polka dot bikini. If you put up weird photos, you're going to attract weird people.
  • Present yourself how you are (the good version), not how you wish you could be.
  • For instance, pick a normal "good" outfit that you typically wear – don't snap a photo of you at prom or as a bridesmaid or at a gala ball. If you do that, your suitors (or suitoresses, if that's a word) will expect you to doll-up like that all the time.
  • In general, err on the side of being slightly too conservative. You want to telegraph your personality, but subtly. It's like flirting – you want to give a little but not too much.
The most important advice is to get out there and start taking action. Don't wait until you finalize the perfect profile photo. Start making connections on a bicurious dating website, and change up your profile and photo picture as you go.
So what are you waiting for? Get started today on the bisexual hookup website Meetbi, and find your perfect romantic rendezvous.