Finding a Bi girlfriend, just stop crying and do it! LOL

I am always hearing about how difficult it is to find a Bi girl for a relationship or sexual encounter. Even on sites like this one where we all admit we like other girls.

So here are my thoughts and experiences.

Do you approach someone when you don't know for sure if she could be bi? Sure! The only way is to dive straight in. Nowadays being gay or lesbian is quite acceptable to most people and especially females. Look the worst that can happen is they give you a dirty look or tell you to go away but most straight girls will just say no thanks or I am not like that, sorry.

Why not try and go somewhere you can ask someone to dance. This usually works for me.
There usually arent enough males to ask to dance anyhow so an opening line might be. Hi, how about dancing? None of the guys are asking so how about it? Better than sitting alone all night. Anyhow you look a lot more attractive than any of the guys here..... laugh. ....

Also try talking to your friends. I discovered that many so called straight girlfriends are actually also bi or at least bi curious. But that most of them are very shy and will not let anybody know.

Anyhow, in my opinion, we have it pretty easy as a bi girl, and I would certainly advise you not to be afraid or feel stupid when you flirt with another girl - you have a 50/50 chance in my experience. And no matter what, you will have a fun and sexy conversation.

Bisexuality: Girls Who Like Girls and Then Boys

Will She Go Straight? Will She Go Straight?
We all know how much I love to generalize and this time the bisexuals are in the hot seat.
Why is it that the bisexual women I know play the lezzo game for a while but end up with men? Is one side better than the other? How is that even determined? Do bisexuals really exist or is the concept a fallacy – a misconception based on a handful of chicks that couldn’t make up their minds or liked sex so much that it didn’t matter who with? Look at Sappho, it was 776 BC for fuck’s sake. What else was there to do besides fuck everyone and write poems about it? She is declared to be the first (witnessed) lesbian in history but ended up marrying a dude, so…?

I can see how dating women but marrying men would be the logical choice. You can actually marry a man, he can provide you with children and fix things around the house, like light bulbs which have blown, as chairs obviously do not exist to climb upon to bring light to one’s room once more. What’s a chair?
I’m going to break down the different types of bisexuals that I have experienced. Let’s begin.


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Anna Paquin: I'm "Proud to Be a Happily Married Bisexual Mother"

The final, seventh season of True Blood kicks off later this month on HBO, but in the meantime, series star Anna Paquin has other things to celebrate -- including LGBT Pride Month! "Proud to be a happily married bisexual mother," the actress, 31, tweeted early Monday, June 8. Looping in the Twitter handles of Equality California, the It Gets Better Project, and the NOH8 Campaign, she added, "Marriage is about love not gender." 

Oscar winner Paquin wed True Blood costar Stephen Moyer back in August 2010, and gave birth to their twins Charlie and Poppy just over two years later. She memorably came out as bisexual a few months before her wedding in a statement for the Give a Damn campaign. Over the weekend, the Canada-born star also praised British hubby Moyer's participation in the massive Soccer Aid charity match in the UK.
"Been obsessing so much bout @socceraid @_smoyer forgot it was #gaypride in LA! I'm proud of the steps we've taken 2wards equality! R U?" the X-Men star asked her followers. "So much love to you all. must sleep while the babes sleep. goodnight. xo #HappyPride #socceraid2014 #unicef #safetravels @_smoyer"
Of her bisexuality, the former child actress told Zooey magazine in spring 2010, "For me, it’s not really an issue because I’m someone who believes being bisexual is actually a thing. It’s not made up. It’s not a lack of decision."
The Piano star continued, "It's not being greedy or numerous other ignorant things I've heard at this point. For a bisexual, it's not about gender. That's not the deciding factor for who they're attracted to."
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Bisexual Women Dating: Stop Whining and Get Real

The toughest thing you can be in the online dating world is a bisexual woman. We have complicated lives and lots of "baggage" like husbands, children and established lifestyles. And let's face it, bisexual women are perceived as selfish, self centered and unrealistic.
So ladies, it's time to take a look and the hard realities of online bisexual dating for women. It's time for you to learn why many bi women succeed and meet other bi women, and why others fail and never meet anyone at all.

The following is direct, and perhaps harsh. But it is real, and it's important that you read this article.

First, if you're straight then the dating world "gets you" and online dating is simple. Just join some dating site, post a picture, create that clever profile message, put a little effort into connecting with other members and Bingo! It's flirt time. Because a female seeking a male has it made! Girls get bombarded with messages from guys because guys scan profiles and, being aggressive, they send a message. In fact, research shows that men originate most dating site mail traffic; on most dating sites 80% of the message traffic is generated by men. Have a few kids or a prior marriage? That's OK, it fits the established profile and is acceptable to many men.

Likewise, if you are a lesbian seeking another lesbian, then you have a pretty good idea of how a relationship may progress; Dating, discovery, a relationship and perhaps even a long term future together. Again, this is a connection between two people that are unencumbered and actively seeking a partner.
So, if you are straight or gay, sit back and read those messages that appear, like "ego presents," in your inbox.
But a simple, traditional and easy to figure relationship is not really what bisexual women are about, is it?

We are seeking, in many cases, someone who will:

1. Accept my existing relationships with husbands, family and children.
2. Be the "third wheel" in my existing relationships.
3. Meet (and perhaps have sexual relationships with) my husband, and accept his input on when and how we should develop a relationship.
4. Find my "guy" (if I have one) as sexually alluring and attractive as I do.
5. Never be a part of my public life, and never meet my other friends, family or co-workers.
6. Be willing to meet my situational needs (location, schedule, available time) by modifying their lives to fit my circumstances.
7. Keep our "secret" about being bi and have a relationship on the down low. That's right, no public signs of affection, or boasting about your "hot" new girlfriend.
8. Fulfill my sexual fantasy, either one on one or with my "man."
9. Accept that to have a relationship with me, you must meet the conditions on my profile page, even though I may have never bothered to complete it.
10. Understand that I may be in a relationship with you, and then decide I want a traditional relationship with a man and a family.
11. Understand that I may want to "try" this, and if it does not work out the way I expect, then you just go away, without heartbreak or remorse.
12. Overlook the absurd and offensive nature of what I am seeking. And do things that I would NEVER do; Like "I want a woman, that I don't know, and have no relationship with, to drive 120 miles to have sex with me and my husband."
So, in many cases, we really don't want you to "date" us at all. We want you to be interested in our "bisexual woman as a package" bundle.
And here's the punchline. According to research studies, bi women are the least likely group to originate messages on dating websites; Or complete their profile, or reach out to others! Many bi women expect to join, lurk in the background, make no effort and make no connections. The expect other members to initiate contact.

It is interesting that bi women's sites that are strictly forums or blogs are successful for all the reasons detailed above. Bi woman can join, and then post away about their fantasies, desires and experiences. But they never actually "connect" with another girl. It's all kind of a sexual "mind fuck" that fulfills all their bisexual needs, in cyberspace, with their bisexual cyber girlfriends. (BTW: 74% of female members on "Bi Women's" forum sites are men.)
Wha....? As the the founders of UsBiGirls, we are often astounded by the expectations of some members; And saddened that some bisexual women treat each other as sexual toys.

So, what does it take to meet a bi women on
Start with a complete profile, with an honest assessment of who you are.
Expect to establish a relationship with a woman before you expect her to "do" something for you.
Post a real picture! Who wants to connect with an avatar?
Make a time commitment to search profiles, post on member walls or send PM's (Private Messages) to members. Keep in mind that research shows you must make seven connection/message attempts to get one back and make a "friend."
Verify your account to prove that you are female and real.
Answer your damn mail and get active in a group.
Spend some time chatting with other members.

UsBiGirls has one of the highest connection rates of any dating site on the web, regardless of dating type, as verified by Google. And we are truly free, by women for bi women, and verify more carefully than any other site. So get going, bi girl, and Do It!

And face the fact that if you are having trouble connecting on this site, the principle reason for your failure is most likely because you are doing nothing, and expecting everything.