10 Reasons I Am Thankful for Bisexual Women

Bisexual women have it rough. Lesbians are scared of them, guys don't take their interest in women seriously, and their moms think they're still going to end up with a dude. I've lately been thinking about all the flack that bi girls get from lesbians (and from straight people) for being in the middle of the sexuality spectrum rather than on one extreme end or another. I admittedly used to be one of those lesbians who was wary of bi girls. "What if she leaves me for a guy?" "What if she always feels like she's missing something?"  But then I eventually got my head out of my ass and realized that any girl could just as easily break my heart. That getting left by a girl for another girl is probably worse. That if you're in a committed relationship your sexuality means absolutely nothing beyond the fact that it allows you to be attracted to whomever you're dating. Etc. etc. etc. So I'm giving a shout out to bi girls everywhere: Keep doing your thing and being who you are and not picking a fucking side if you are attracted to both genders, multiple genders, whatever! We love you and you have earned your letter in the giant acronym of non-straightness. Here are 10 reasons why I am thankful for bisexual girls:   
1.    They're everywhere. Literally, everywhere.
You know how all the studies say that gay people make up something like 3-4 percent of the population or some crazy low number like that? (I mean I think it's more like 20 percent but that's another conversation). At any rate, given that sexuality is clearly a bell curve, it follows that roughly 50 percent of the population is bisexual. Of that 50 percent, more than  half are women. So by my estimation there are roughly 2,465,263,987,361 bisexual girls on the planet. No, I did not major in statistics, but I'm still right. Now it's up to you to find them. Speaking of finding them…

2. They are looking for girls to date on Tinder and MeetBi.com
Now, more than ever, it is so flipping easy to find a bisexual girl to date! I have this theory that online dating, as well as revolutionizing how people meet each other and fall in love, has been a complete game-changer for the LGBT community. It used to be nearly impossible to spot another lesbian/bisexual unicorn, if neither of you were presenting the so-called lesbian aesthetic markers of hair, clothing, etc. But now…now! There are women everywhere you swipe. Into feminine girls but thwarted by femme invisibility? Look no further. And all the androgynous girls are there too. Have you already dated/befriended/slept with/had a falling out with every lesbian you know? Well luckily there's an entire world of uncharted territory out there of beautiful bisexual girls who don't live in your lesbian bubble, haven't already dated all of your friends, and don't carry years of lesbian baggage/drama. Thank. God. And speaking of lesbian bubbles…

3. They (often) do not live in the real-life equivalent of The L Word.
Given that bisexual girls live everywhere, and do every type of job, and have every type of life, and sometimes date guys if that's what they're into, and also date girls (and possibly even marry girls! it happens!) it follows that they might not live in an incestuous lesbian bubble like you do. And if you don't currently live in The L Word but are a lesbian, perhaps consider yourself thankful because that shit can get dramatic really quickly. I'm not saying having lesbian friends is bad because we all need someone or multiple people who really understand us and all that jazz. But in my experience, being friends with and dating bi girls helps pull me out of that myopic world and expands my horizons. It's important for everyone, no matter who they are, to have a diverse range of friends, and I think gay people sometimes forget that just as much as straight people do. Bi girls help bridge that divide,  and show everyone that labels don't have to define everything we do.

4.  They're fucking gorgeous.
Before you all collectively jump down my throat on this one, yes of COURSE there are beautiful lesbians. But if you refer back to number 1, you'll recall that it often feels like there are only 5 lesbians on Earth and you are one of them, you are bffs/bros with the second one, you strongly dislike the third, and you've already dated the other two. There are so. Many. Bisexual. Women. I cannot stress this enough. And I mean legitimately bi women…not experimenting straight girls who like to use us as orgasm donors, and then bail. (For the record, bi girls get screwed over by this disrespectful experimenting/playing with people's hearts too).
Anyway, back to what I was saying — looking purely at numbers, there's a higher chance of finding a beautiful bisexual girl than just about any other type of woman (there are probably more bi girls than straight girls out there too. Just sayin'). And if you like women who are femme/girly/long-haired/fitting-standards-of-traditional-female-beauty etc., you are in even more luck because bi girls tend to be on this end of the gender presentation spectrum. I don't know why this is. Maybe because they are also open to dating guys and guys tend to go for femme-ier girls? Maybe because some of them live a more outwardly heteronormative existence? I have no idea why, I just am basing this off of personal experience and observation. I'm not knocking other gender presentations either. I think androgyny is fucking sexy. I think masculine women are fucking sexy. I think feminine women are fucking sexy. And so do bisexual girls. And they are really, really hot.

5. They're everything you love about straight women, but they also have a gritty gay-ish edge to them and want to sleep with you.
They smell good. They have shiny, shiny hair. They have a billion beauty products in their arsenal. (They probably will give you some excellent beauty tips as well). They are perfectly manicured/waxed/etc. They will probably know how to do at least one of the following with proficiency: cooking, baking, sewing, styling hair, styling clothes, hosting dinner parties, wrapping gifts, handwriting letters, staying in shape, interior design, listening, nurturing, gardening, etc.
I do not care that this list is horribly reductive and relies completely on gender stereotypes about (straight) women. Lesbians are so fixated on fighting against gender norms that sometimes we forget that a lot of the things typically associated with women and femininity are wonderful things, and we should probably do more of them. And if we are just too masculine to do so, we should at least celebrate them. And maybe bi girls aren't so indoctrinated in the lesbian world and still retain some so-called straight girl characteristics. Since when did being able to keep a plant alive, or write a beautiful handwritten letter, or heat-style your hair with a round brush become such a negative thing?
Along with all these things, they were likely also a tomboy growing up, and are not afraid to get dirty, don't obsessively count calories, chug beer with the best of 'em, and know how to rock a flannel shirt.
6. They kick ass in bed.
Since they are legitimately into girls, their desire will lead them to become very eager/fast learners and very seasoned in lady-sex very quickly. Unlike straight girl pillow princesses, I’ve found that bi girls are giving and aggressive, they take charge, and participate equally, and love every second of it. Also because they've been with guys, they're likely to be able to handle a wide range of styles, so to speak. Yet they're likely also to be amazed/happy/excited about how much fucking better lesbian sex is than sex with men (nearly every bi girl I know admits as much — if they do still date guys it's usually for other reasons that has more to do with not being able to put up with women's ridiculousness, and nothing to do with men's performance sexually. Women always seem to win that one). I don't want to get too detailed here, just trust me on this one.

7. Their sexuality doesn't envelope their whole world. They tend to see people as people and not sexuality labels.
Another thing we (myself very much included) often tend to forget as lesbians is that there's a giant world out there, and it far extends beyond All Things Lesbian. Bisexual girls get this because they exist in both Straightsville and Gayland, and either used to or still do travel between them. Like straight girls, bisexual girls define themselves mainly by their passions, their work, their hobbies, or their nationalities/ethnicities/whatever — not as much their sexuality. Now look, I know that this whole lesbians-obsessively-identifying-as-lesbians thing comes as a direct result of straight society obsessively making our lesbianism the Most Important Identity Marker about us, but we have a responsibility to look beyond that too and not always do the All Gay All Day thing. I will never stop being obsessed with queer academia, lesbian filmmaking, all of that. But I'm a lot of things besides being a lesbian. Hanging around bi girls helps me remember that.

8.  They'll totally get along with your parents.
Because bi girls sort of embody the best of both gay and straight girl tendencies, they will probably have just as much in common with your mom (if she's straight) as your dad (if he's straight). Get what I'm saying? Bi girls can shoot the shit about football with your dad while also bonding with your mom about girly ass stuff like baby showers that you could care less about. You, like me, also could maybe care less about football as well, but at least the girl you bring home might.

9. As friends, they make excellent sounding boards for your lesbian woes without being too heavily biased but yet still completely getting it.
I've noticed that with a lot of my straight girl friends, there's this line that exists when talking about my dating life that I sometimes accidentally cross, at which point they have no idea how to advise me and/or get weirded-out (topics that cross this line include: period sex, what to do when a girlfriend is being an emotional steamroller, strap-ons, why do lesbians like gay man porn, and so on). When I'm talking to my lesbian friends and I say anything even remotely anti-lesbian, I get railed — it's like you take one misstep and you're off the island. For example: After a particularly terrible breakup with a girl, my sad, sad self got very drunk one night and kissed a guy. I am not even remotely bisexual; I was just having a fucking moment. But my lesbian crew will never, ever let me live that one down. With my bisexual girl friends, however, anything and everything is game. I can tell them basically whatever I want, free of judgment, and I know I won't freak them out. They know how much it sucks to be judged and they know how important it is to rely on your own feelings and self-identification than to be policed by both the gay and straight worlds. Plus they're not going to give you that look of barely-concealed shock when you tell them the more intimate details of your last lady encounter.
And finally…

10. They are NOT going to leave you for a guy.
Like I said in the beginning of this piece, the only way you would ever be in actual danger of being left for a dude is if the girl you're dating is 1) actually straight or 2) a complete asshole who didn't have the courtesy of breaking up with you before pursuing said guy. Truly bisexual girls are truly satisfied in relationships with women. They don't feel like they're "missing something." They don't crave men while they're dating you. If they're in love with you, all their attention is on you and you can rest assured that unless you two break up for some other reason of incompatibility, you don't have to worry about them ditching you for a guy (or another girl) ever again. Bisexual means having the capability to be attracted to both (or many) sexes. It does not have anything to do with monogamy or commitment or relationships. She's always going to be bi, but as long as she's in your bed every night, who fucking cares?
Happy Holidays, y'all.
(Also if I offended any straight girls by all the rants about pillow princesses, keep in mind that I'm only talking about straight girls who fuck with lesbian/bi girls’ hearts, not all straight women. I love you guys, so calm down. Maybe I'll even make a thankful list for you too)

Bisexual Girls Beware: Sociopathic Relationships

Although you may never know it, people you look up to, love, and respect could easily be sociopaths. They give themselves away by exhibiting strange combinations of controlling behaviors, such as being charismatic, calculating, extremely confident, while warmly embracing those who fall under their influence, and quickly dismissing all who disagree with them. Their ingenuous good natures and smiling faces hide sinister agendas which they disguise in their hearts as friendship and love.

These types of sociopaths can be easily spotted because of their affinity to one-way thought instead of open-minded discussions, and they never learn from their mistakes, which they disregard as inconsequential to their ultimate goal. From a controlling aspect, those under their influence are never left to form their own conclusions, which are said to be inferior to the sociopath's ideas. Instead, a sociopath's victim is expected to tow the line and is reprimanded for daring to challenge the sociopath's opinions.

Sociopaths have only one agenda, to manipulate and exploit in order to attain power and control. Instead of saying, "Do what I suggest and see if it makes a difference in your life," they will contend that your life is a mess because you are not following their edicts. There is a vast difference between the two approaches. One puts you in control, and the other puts the sociopath in control.
Sociopaths have no conscience. They plot and plan how to maintain their status and use any means to attain that. They will make you feel very special, but that is merely a manipulation. They will win you over by their words and logic, and control you with their charisma, enchanting you with their intelligence and vision. They will give you a show, but you will get the bill.

Although sociopaths appear to develop personal relationships, these relationships are only one-way, dead-ends, and only last as long as the sociopath gets some kind of selfish reward. If you look closely at these people, they are quite delusional, professing things that they have not experienced themselves, usually only things that they have read about or heard about second hand, even though they pretend to be very experienced and wise.

Sociopaths also exhibit no anxiety, which is a kind of self-hypnosis; because they really believe, that they are what they profess themselves to be. Therefore, no one can ever convince them that they may be wrong, regardless of the logic.
If you find yourself under the spell of such a person, think twice before continuing the relationship. You could be in danger psychologically or perhaps even physically. Sociopaths must get their way; they are very controlling, and when things don't go their way, they can become quite violent.

There are people in the world that have your well-being at heart, and not their own aggrandizement. This is where you will find legitimate relationships and an opportunity to discover the depths of your own heart.

Stay awake!

Bisexual Dating is Hard. Here Are 5 Reasons Why

Bisexuals make up the third letter of the LGBT(Q) alphabet soup. But sometimes they feel a bit left out.
In case you were unaware, bisexuals (the “B” in LGBTQ) are “family,” too. Men and women who love both men and women fall within the rainbow umbrella, but for some reason they don’t always feel the love.

Here are the five biggest misconceptions that make it hard out there for a bisexual who’s in the pursuit of love:

1. You’re greedy … and freaky!

Being bisexual means you want to have your cake and eat it too … right? How could you ever be satisfied with just one person if you identify as bisexual? People like Ani DiFranco seem like a myth when it comes to negotiating bisexual identity. But, really, it is possible.

Bisexual means

Is Three a Crowd? A Short Guide to Threesomes

For most people, the world of threesomes is an appealing fantasy. However, when it comes to bringing the fantasy to life, most people end up finding out that they get more than what they bargained for.

What happens during a threesome?

A threesome is a sexual relationship or event that occurs within a set of 3 people.  There is no concrete set of rules for doing a threesome the "right way". The important thing is that there are 3 participants. Usually it is you, your current partner and another person (of either gender).
The participants of a threesome could be friends, acquaintances, or even strangers. Sometimes people even put up personal ads when they're looking for a third participant. Threesomes can be composed of two males and one female, or two females and one male. Homosexual threesomes are composed of three people of the same gender.

Bisexual or Gay? Still Want to Date Me?

Bi or Gay? Hey, I'm here with you, right? Bi or Gay? Hey, I'm here with you, right?
One of the first times I went on a date with a girl, she asked me, “Are you bi or gay?”
“Well, I’m still figuring that out,” I told her.
Her response was: “I knew you were too good to be true.” I then fell all over myself in an effort to explain to her that, although I was unsure about how to define my sexuality, I was definitely into girls, more so than I’m into guys. I am not and have never been bi-curious, bi for attention or bi only when men are around. Since then, I’ve figured out that I’m solely into girls. So I guess I wasn’t too good to be true, huh?

This Mom Is Bisexual And In An Open Marriage. And She’s Happy As Can Be

Sacrifice. Isn’t that what motherhood is all about? Or is that what we have made ourselves believe? We sacrifice our sleep, our vanity and often our dignity. Anyone who has ever whipped out a boob in a crowded restaurant or has had to deal with a screaming tantrum in a toy store knows exactly what I mean. We mothers have convinced ourselves that to be the best for our children, we have to give up almost everything that separates us from the childless women out there.

But to be good mothers must we sacrifice that which makes us who we are? For Sophie Jenkins, absolutely not. One recent evening, following dinner with her husband Steve and their six-year-old daughter, Sophie planned a fun night out dancing with the girls. This isn’t unusual for most moms – we still enjoy nights out with our friends, even though they may end earlier than they did in our child-free days. But for Sophie, the concept of ‘girls night out’ takes on a whole different meaning.

On this night, Sophie enters the club and watches the gorgeous women, eyeing their soft curves. But she won’t be viewing them with envy, comparing her own body to theirs, as so many of us tend to do. No, Sophie will be looking at them with interest. You see, Sophie is a bisexual, married mom and tonight, she wants to find a woman to dance with and maybe make out with and then see where it leads.

You might be shocked, even horrified, to think that Sophie is cheating on her clueless husband. You might be judging this behavior as unsuitable for a mom. But Sophie is neither cheating nor doing anything wrong. She is simply living her life the way she wants to. And Steve knows all about it.

From the minute they met, Steve knew that Sophie was the woman he was going to marry and have children with. He also knew that she was bisexual and he had no problem with it. He understood that it’s the person – not the gender – that Sophie loves, and that she loves her husband deeply. And for the first few years of their marriage, it was enough.

Then Sophie had her daughter, a traumatic birth that led to severe postpartum depression. She felt lost, unhappy and desperate to have her old life back, which had included dating women. After therapy and a lot of soul searching, Sophie realized that she had sacrificed too much. She is a married mom, yes, but she is also a bisexual woman who needs other women to feel whole.

Bisexuality is confusing for most people. Isn’t it enough to just choose one gender and stick with it? Must people be allowed to sample from every menu? Well, why not? If Sophie’s bisexuality is “an elemental capacity to develop an attraction to the same gender,” then how can one argue with an innate part of her identity? Our most important job as moms is to teach our children to be proud of who they are. Sophie is doing exactly that. Though, like most parents, she has no intention of discussing her sex life with her daughter, she is exemplifying how to live a full, content life by being honest with herself and her husband about who she is.

Where is her loving partner in all of this? Well, he also has desires, but his don’t include going to bars and picking up women. What he wants is the classic male fantasy: a threesome with his wife and another woman. But as Sophie explains, it’s not easy to find a woman who wants to be brought home to someone else’s husband. In fact, it’s so hard to find this elusive other woman that it became part of an iconic Sex and the City episode in which Miranda answers a personals ad from a couple looking for this rare third party. According to Sophie, most potential “thirds” aren’t so sure about joining in with a married couple with kids. Even the most open-minded of people have particular views of family life, and they don’t include threesomes.

Sophie is first and foremost a mother. She takes Maddy to school and chats with the other moms about this and that. But when asked what she had done on Saturday night at her daughter’s class picnic, she neglects to mention the kissing and slow dancing with a woman at a club. Imagining the wide-eyed stares and gaping mouths on the moms’ faces (and the awe perhaps from the dads) is reason enough for Sophie to keep her true identity hidden. This causes a cognitive dissonance of sorts. Sophie is neither embarrassed nor ashamed of who she is, yet to protect her family, she cannot reveal a great part of who she is because of what other moms might think. And as educated and enlightened as we purport to be, moms are, at heart, often competitive and judgmental when it comes to what might seem like inappropriate “mom” behavior. Maybe it’s because we have our own secret proclivities.

But Sophie is not alone. A recent New York Times article by Mark Oppenheimer called “Married, With Infidelities” profiles Dan Savage, America’s best known sex columnist. His column, Savage Love, often looks at monogamy and what he considers its problems. For Savage, the best relationships are had if both people involved are “good, giving and game,” whatever that might entail for the couple. For Savage personally, it includes some extramarital activity; in Sophie’s case, it’s finding women to fool around with and perhaps sharing them with her husband, as she’s done in the past.

Judith Stacey, a New York University sociologist quoted in Oppenheimer’s article, succinctly sums up Sophie’s definition of her marriage: “Monogamy is not natural, non-monogamy is not natural. Variation is natural.” Variation is the key to Sophie’s happy marriage and her ability to be the best mother she can be.

Marriage and motherhood are never easy. In addition to balancing the demands of a husband and child, Sophie also has to find the time (and place) to fulfill a whole other need. She isn’t looking for a girlfriend per se, but she is looking for variation in her sex life. And though Steve is never accusing in his questions, he does want to be included in every part of Sophie’s life – and so it’s a challenge for her to decide how much to share. If Sophie ultimately decides that she wants to find another man, or Steve decides he does want to see another woman, these will be other lines they’ll have to cross. Fluidity in their relationship is understood as part of human nature, and Sophie knows that they will approach it together.

Sophie and Steve love each other, their child and the variation on life they’re mapping out for themselves. With the current media explosion about Arnold Schwarzenegger, Anthony Weiner and countless other celebrities and politicians literally being caught with their pants down, Sophie has figured out something most people haven’t. Honesty is truly the core of a relationship, and being who you really are, no holds barred, is the secret to happiness.

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How can bisexuals find each other?

It is often difficult to locate groups that deal specifically with a bi/pan/fluid identity. Listed below are groups around the U.S. and around the world that may be of help to you.


AMBI Los Angeles

American Institute of Bisexuality

Bay Area Bisexual Network

Bi and Polyamorous Together - Charm City (Baltimore)

BiNet Seattle


Bisexual Organizing Project (BOP) (Minneapolis)

Bisexual Queer Alliance Chicago

Bisexuals in Metro Phoenix

Bisexuals United (Corpus Christi, Texas)

BiUnity in Philadelphia

Biversity Boston

Boston Bisexual Women's Network

Dallas/Fort Worth Bi Net

Fenway Health's Bi Health Program (Boston)

Los Angeles Bi Task Force

New York Area Bisexual Network

Richmond Bisexual Network (ROBIN)

Robyn Ochs's site

Seattle Bisexual Women's Network

The Bi Writers Association


Bisexual Women of Toronto

Toronto Bisexual Network

United Kingdom

Bi Coffee London

Bi Con (UK)

Bi Festival (UK)

BiPhoria (Manchester)

Bi Scotland

Bisexual Underground (London)

UK: The Bisexual Index


AmBIvalence Strasbourg (France)

Bi'Cause Paris (France)

Bigruppen (Danmark)

BINE (Germany)

Liebe-Leben-Leute.de (Germany)

Landelijk Netwerk Biseksualiteit (Netherlands)

Bijou (Netherlands)

COGAM (Madrid, Spain)

Area bisexualidad de Algarabia (Tenerife, Spain)


Bi-Sides (Sao Paolo, Brazil)


Bi and Pansexuals Israel


Bi-NSW Inc (Sydney)

Bi Alliance Victoria, Inc. (Melbourne)

Bisexual: Men and women, not all love?

Spanish movie "angels of sex that once many say" big break through ".Film tells the story of a man and a woman love two trials.Although dog blood plot, but also sparked intense discussion on bisexual.Bi is the third major except gay and straight sexual orientation, bisexual people love of men and women both sexes emotional and sexual arousal.
 Involved in the film angel sexual bisexual life, widely discussed.Photo: movie.douban.com

In order to understand the different gender, race and not gay people view of bisexual, from the university of Pittsburgh school of public health, Mackey Friedman (Mackey Friedman) and his colleagues designed a about the bisexual people attitude questionnaire.Yesterday (November 5), in the American public health association 141th annual meeting and exposition, friedman announced the results of the survey.
Early investigation, they interviewed hundreds of college students, and according to their the bisexual can associate words (such as "confused" and "unusual" and "experimental") 33 the final part of the design problem of questionnaire, and eventually withdraw 1500 papers from the Internet.
Results show that the respondents attitude to bisexuals are generally negative.Think bisexual "is not a legitimate, reasonable sexual orientation" accounted for nearly 15% of respondents, heterosexual male respondents Especially holding this attitude.Relatively, the female, white, gay and bisexual itself, prejudice and discrimination of bisexual is smaller.Moreover, even in "sexual minority", bisexual also face prejudice - compared with bisexual, their attitude of gay people are significantly more negative feedback.Study also found that, compared with female bisexual, bisexual men suffer more from the rest of the population of the blame.
The mass of bisexual negative attitude to bisexual people's physical and mental health have a negative impact.If bisexual know their sexual orientation is not accepted by peers, they may feel isolated from society, no longer openly talked about this matter with classmates, friends and even family.In the long term, bisexuals may face deep depression and other health problems.

 Michael Peggy (Michael Page) 1998 design for a Bisexual proud flag (Bisexual pride flag).But under the negative evaluation of others, not every bisexual proud for their sexual orientation.Image: wikipedia

Dr. Friedman said: "men and women, bisexual people at the same time facing the prejudice from the gay and straight, humiliation and discrimination, which can lead to bisexual people produce psychological state is isolated and marginalised. Based on previous studies have found that the mental state can lead to a more serious drug use and abuse, depression and high risk behavior, at the same time it can also reduce the bisexual people the detection rate and the treatment of AIDS."
According to the survey, the researchers obtained the data to explain why indeed bisexual people to hide their sexual orientation, this great benefits to eliminate discrimination and prejudice.Friedman adds: "for example, the information is helpful to guide the social marketing intervention and promotion, so as to reduce the discrimination and prejudice for bisexual, improve bisexual group in the current situation of AIDS prevention, detection and treatment." 

Information source: EurekAlert!
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Bisexual Women: Telling Your Man You're Bi

A Difficult Discussion? 

 Does this sound familiar? You've just realized you are attracted to women or you have known for some time now. You happen to be married to a man and he doesn't know about your interest in other women. You are at the point where you cannot ignore these feelings any longer and you realize you’re going to have to tell your husband.

Everything that you’re feeling inside is affecting your relationship with your husband and whether you’re having an affair with a woman or not, he deserves to know what’s been going on with you. This may or may not be a relationship-changing event. Here are some things to consider before coming out to your husband as a lesbian or bisexual.

Your husband may be a great guy. You may still love him. He may be the father of your children and your partner in everything in life. Chances are he’s noticed changes in your behavior, sexually and otherwise, and how you react to him. He may be blaming himself for the distance he feels from you. When you decide the time is right to tell him, here are some tips on how best to go about it.


Coming out to your husband is not going to be easy. Make sure you plan to tell him during a period where you know he will have the time and space to process it. Don’t do it over a holiday or your anniversary. If you have children, you might want to see if you can get someone to watch them for a day. Allow for at least a few hours of uninterrupted time for the two of you to be alone together.


There’s no way to know for sure how he will react. He may become angry. He may get sad. He may ask you to leave right away. Or he may wonder if there is anyway you can work things out with him. Be ready for any of these emotions to erupt and decide ahead of time how you will deal with each one.

What Do You Want?

5 main benefits of a bisexual couples relationship

A bisexual couples relationship is sort of like an open relationship between bisexuals. In this type of relationship, couples are free to sleep with members of the opposite and same sex i.e. a woman is free to sleep with other men and women and vice versa. Before couples decide to go down this route, it is important for both partners to have a common view on sex and love. Couples who are able to differentiate between the two easily will have no problem agreeing to a bisexual couples relationship and all its accompaniments. Read more:[Bisexual couple]

The most important component of any type of relationship is open communication before and during new relationship experiences. Open relationships like bisexual couples relationships require other components i.e. boundaries safeguarding the comfort, feelings and safety of both parties. Although bisexual couples relationships have both advantages and disadvantages, this article will focus on the benefits. Below are some of the main benefits of bisexual couples relationships.

1. There are no boundaries to exploration

This is by far one of the most notable benefits of a bisexual couples relationships. An open relationship may not be satisfying to some people especially those who are attracted or curious about having sexual experiences with members of the same and opposite sex. Agreeing to a bisexual couples relationship can do the trick because it gives everyone the freedom to explore sexually with members of all sexes without guilt or fear. It is important to note that most people are curious about same sex sexual engagements without necessarily being bisexual. Having a bisexual couples relationship will

Being A Bisexual Woman Is Hard On A Marriage!

Honestly, What Was He Thinking?

So, for better or for worse, the man of your dreams asks for you to spend your life in his arms. He wants to protect you, love you, care for your needs. Wonderful! But you told him about your...er...tendencies, and he said that he understands your needs. You both dismissed that little detail because, well...you are both in love and nothing can get in the way of that carnal and beautiful thing that the two of you have together, right? Well, what swooning girl wouldn't give up chocolate, extra slices of pizza, movies with friends, and a spin in the ol'e hay with...um...another girl? Well, you would. And you have. And you will...until...

The Real Feelings Rear Their Buried Selves

A few years forward, marriage has been good and the new hubby has been kind. But, hang on, let's face it. Marriage really is hard. Tender feelings, opened by the love of a new man, have been a little worn from a few disagreements, maybe. The changes in life, perhaps children...new ones, ones from your hubby's past, living with a new person, friendships changing, job changes...are all making life challenging. For a long time, it has been easy for you to ignore the draw that you had to other men, and to other women. Life has just been busy, yeah? Too busy to take a break and find that you haven't really changed, you have probably just ignored yourself, your needs, maybe hoping that you could unthink them away. After all, life is easier if you aren't being demanding upon yourself. It is enough that everyone around you is constantly expecting your attention.


Everything You Need To Know About Bisexuality

So, what's the deal with bisexuality? Here's everything you need to know. | Photo source: Glee/FOX
So, what’s the deal with bisexuality? Here’s everything you need to know. | 
When it comes to sexuality, even some of the most awful bigots will at least admit that homosexuality is real. They might not like it, but they won’t deny its existence. And yet, for some reason, bigots, seemingly progressive people and plenty of members of the queer community really hate to acknowledge the fact that bisexuality exists. Even some incredibly prominent LGBTQ figures like Dan Savage have made weird claims about bisexuality being a farce. Uh, what? Why is it so hard to believe that people can be attracted to people who are their gender as well as other genders? Why is that so ridiculous?

Anyway, the point is that there are a lot of ridiculous negative connotations and general confusion surrounding bisexuality. So whether you’re bi, you think you might be be bi, or you’re not bi at all and just want to learn more about it, here are the bare basics of what you need to know about bisexuality.

Lets get started, shall we? Woop woop!
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What is bisexuality?

Bisexual and over 50 : Jan

Here's the second in the series of "email interviews" with bi people over 50. There has been a lot of good reaction to this on social media, so many thanks! We are out there.

Each of these "interviews" is written by the individual concerned; the questions in bold come from me.

I'm Jan Steckel, 51, white, female, writer and former paediatrician. I live in a house in Oakland, California, USA, with my husband who is also bisexual.

How did you come to think of yourself as bisexual?
I’d had boyfriends since the eighth grade [aged 13] and assumed I was straight. Then, the summer before I turned 18, I sang in a band. I was falling in love with the lead guitarist, a man, when the drummer, a woman, asked me out. I made out with her that night and realized that I was bisexual, even though I ended up with the young man.

What does being bisexual mean to you?
It means I am sexually attracted to some people who are the same sex as I am and to some who are of a different sex from me.

Has this changed over the years, and if so, how?
Not much since I realized I was bi. It’s my gender identity that has changed instead. When I was a kid I thought I was a boy and that some mistake had been made. In college I wished I was a man. I was pretty dysphoric about my body’s curves, such as they were. I wanted the hard planes of a man’s body, and I wanted to love a man as another man. Almost all the fiction I wrote then was first person male, and my closest friends were male, too.

Now I’m comfortable with being female. As an adult, I was always more sexually attracted to women but had a tendency to fall in love with men. Since my recent menopause, I think I’ve become more attracted to women as well as to trans and nonbinary people and less attracted to men, though my attraction to my husband has remained constant.

What do other people in your life know about your bisexuality and how do they react?
Most people who know me know that I’m bi. I’m pretty out and loud about it, and have been for decades. Since my poetry book The Horizontal Poet won the 2012 Lambda Literary Award for Bisexual Nonfiction,  I pretty much lead my literary bio with that. One of my older female relatives told me angrily that by putting the fact that I was bisexual on the back of my book, I had disrespected my marriage to my husband, but most of my family has been pretty cool.

When I first came out to my mother, she was worried that if I ended up with a woman I wouldn’t have children, or my children would be screwed up. She got over that well before I was out of my childbearing years, I think, though in the end I didn’t have kids. My Dad was probably more uncomfortable at first than my Mom, but he’s pretty cool about it now. My brother’s always been fine about it.

It was definitely not cool, though, with many of my fellow physicians. That’s part of the reason I’m not in medicine anymore. Poets and writers are a lot more accepting.

My husband is bisexual, too, and it’s a pretty big part of our lives. We march every year in the bi contingent of the San Francisco Pride parade, and he hosts a social group called Berkeley BiFriendly where we met. We’ve both been published in bisexual anthologies and periodicals. I just had a short story come out in Best Bi Short Stories, and he has a painting being reproduced in a forthcoming anthology of work by bi men. Many of our friends are queer, so we get a lot of support from our community around it.

Looking back over your life so far, is there anything you wish you’d done differently?
I wish I had dated more women early on and had longer-lasting relationships with them. I was a little passive at first, waiting for people to pursue me instead of taking the initiative.

What about your hopes or fears for the future (regarding bisexuality)?
I belong to an online writing critique group where some jackass keeps attacking me every time I mention writing for bi periodicals or any honor I’ve got for bi writing. He accuses me of playing identity politics. My answer to that is that I’d be delighted not to need identity politics anymore. When discrimination against bisexual people goes away, then if people don’t want to label themselves according to their sexuality, fine. Until then I’m sticking to my label and making sure young people see plenty of bisexual characters in literature. I want young bisexually inclined people to see themselves reflected in what they read. I want them to have a peer group of other bisexual people, unlike me when I was coming up.

Any words of wisdom for younger bi people – or older ones?
Find a peer group of other bi people, even if it’s only online. Get support from them. Try to find a safe way to come out, even if it means moving to a city with a visible bi population.

Bisexual Dating Site- Meetbi.com : The Review From About.com

"MeetBi.com is designed just for bisexual and bi-curious individuals. Here you can find sexy and open-minded singles & couples looking to explore their sexuality, chat, hook up with, etc. We also offer many features to facilitate people looking for anything from lovers to intimate relationships.

Unlike other sites, singles here start out with something in common, love for bisexual passion and bisexual romance. The common interest will help make dating easier and more effective."

What a MeetBi Membership Includes

There are two membership types at MeetBi: the free membership is called a "Guest" membership, whereas the paid membership is called a "Gold" membership.

MeetBi Guest memberships include the free creation of a profile, including uploading of photos, the ability to answer all emails and incoming messages (but not the ability to initiate contact), and limited use of the search engine feature, "which includes the gender you are seeking, age range and as close as 100 miles to you".

A MeetBi Gold membership includes all of the Guest features, plus:

Bisexuality: Coming Out to Yourself

What does 'coming out' mean? For many it simply means accepting who they are, without preconceptions, without judgement, assuming an identity that is open and honest, both to themselves and to others around them. To others, it simply means accepting who they are in silence, not sharing with anyone their true identity with the possible exception of a few close friends.

Whatever it means to you, what is important is that you accept who you are and are comfortable within your own skin, live in peace, and are not haunted by fears of being discovered and rejected by others. If you carry feelings of a deep dark secret you are not living a carefree harmonious calm life; rather one filled with stress and anxiety. Coming out to yourself in whatever manner you choose, will liberate you from a self-imposed prison and will lead you to living a free and more enjoyable way of life.

The Coming Out Process

Research indicates that people go through a range of stages before coming out and can remain in any one of these stages for an indefinite amount of time.
In the first stage, a person feels different from others, they know they feel different towards people of the same sex but it's not always clear, if their feelings are of a sexual, romantic or of a friendship nature.
In the second stage they become more aware of their feelings and their attractions to people of the same sex. They may have had sexual liaisons with people of the same sex, but are not proud of their actions, have mixed feelings about their identity and may experience feelings of denial regarding their sexual orientation.

In the third stage, they begin to accept their sexual identity by mixing with other lesbian, gay or bisexual people, attending groups and events, and dating people of the same sex more openly. In the final stage, they begin to feel proud of their identity; they do not want to hide it, and want to share it with people they love, trust and respect. At this point, they may experience feelings of euphoria and pride, and truly feel they have 'come out'.

Why come out?

Meet bisexual women: 10 Connection Tips That Work

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And no site, free or commercial, has a better connection rate than we do. We are bi women, and we understand the unique nature and hardships associated with bi hookups.
So, if  you want to meet another bi woman here...you can! But only if you get active and make an effort.
Here are some tips on how to connect with other members and have some girl fun.
  1. Go to the Search Page: Click all the sidebar options for finding girls near you. Remember to try the Advanced Search, it shows members near you within a mileage radius, on a Google Map.
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  9. Get involved in Group activities. Join or start a Group in your area. That's why you joined, right?
  10. Treat others with respect, and not as a sex toy for you and your "super sexy" man. Any of us can attract men! Make a connection with a woman first, and then explore your threesome fantasy. If all you want is a woman who will jump into a threesome with people she has no relationship with, try a swingers site or get a pro. These profiles never attract anyone.

Bisexual Dating Resources

A Bisexual is a person who knows that sexuality is fluid, it is free and changing. A person labeled under this category is the type of person who can be attracted to both men an women in all levels and categories one can imagine be it romantically, intellectually, physically and others.

Are you Bisexual?
Some people although knowing that they are attracted to people of the same sex tend to brush the idea off because of the rule of the norm. For others on the other hand, they do not even know if they really are a bisexual. To determine if you really are under this particular category of gender you may check the following guidelines.

  • Which gender do you find yourself to be more comfortable?
  • Are you physically attracted to both sexes?
  • Do you prefer seeking emotional comfort with men or women?
  • Have you ever been emotionally attached to a person of the same sex?

It is through determining the answer to the said questions that one can realize on whether he or she is a bisexual. Chances are, if one has really been extremely emotionally, physically, intellectually attached to a person of the same sex while accepting the probability of being in the same state of feelings with the opposite sex that one can be certain that s/he is a true bisexual.

Dating ressources

The queer world is rather small and intimate. There are many venue for one to find people of the same sex preference. For single bisexual people who does not know where to start meeting people try to go online to know people. There are already several websites meant for this type of dating.

www.bicupid.com is one of the most popular and very well advertised lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender network website. Its use can make her own profile and customize it according to her personality. It also gives a venue for people to chat as a group and as an individual.

http://www.meetbi.com has been available for every bisexual people to communicate with each other since the year 1997. In fact, one can even browse on someone else profile without the need of registering to the site making it more interesting.

http://www.bidatingnow.com is the site for bisexuals to meet people who are not of the same gender range. Its membership is free. Users are allowed to create their own profile and browse members from other dating websites.