Marking Bisexual Pride Day

2013-09-19-bisexual-bisexual_pride_flag.jpg
We are proud to call ourselves bisexual. We are proud to be national bisexual leaders with a long history of working for our community. The gains that the LGBT community has seen in the last decade are truly remarkable, and as freedom rings, so too do the cries of those who will not be left behind.
Bisexuals have a pride flag, safe spaces, researchers, advocates, experts, celebrities, and authors. We march in pride parades; paint our nails purple, pink and blue; and suffer the ignominy of being identified as people of privilege instead of the folks more likely to suffer disparities (no matter if we're married to straight people or not!). After decades of research we have finally begun to be understood as a community in dire need of specific approaches and interventions in areas like health, bullying, mental health, domestic/partner violence, HIV/AIDS, and the workplace.
Like many bisexuals, we ourselves have suffered discrimination in our workplace (see Faith's video on her experiences for the Center for American Progress here) and have been bullied and told we don't exist. We have survived breast cancer (see Ellyn's interview here) and sought assistance for the bad days brought on by the severe mental stress associated with being a person invalidated and unrecognized by society. We have every right to an existence that is celebrated and honored, just as much as any person who has loved any other person on this Earth.
Today, we and other leaders from the bisexual community will be attending a briefing at the White House on the issues impacting our community. It's a good day when our government reaches out to a community like ours that is facing systemic and institutionalized discrimination.
It's a better world when we have opportunities to directly dialogue with U.S. government agencies and other representatives of the LGBT community on some of the most urgent needs of our often-erased and stigmatized community.

Bisexual member's article: How did you discover you were bi?

I'm a new member, and also a new bisexual. I found out/discovered/realized I was bi about a week ago. What a trip. I've been lurking through the site, talking to a bisexual friend of mine, and generally been trying to reacquaint myself with my sexuality, and found(I'm sure not surprisingly) that the more I talk about it, the better/more comfortable I feel.

I don't know if it's a common thing or not, but I pretty much found out within the span of two minutes. See, I've lived up until this point thinking I was straight, and having a pretty good time of it. It's just that every few months or so, I'd have a homoerotic dream, or maybe see a guy and wonder what it'd be like to be in bed with him. I figured that everyone thought that every now and then, and brushed the dreams off as weird dreams. They were still disconcerting, and I'd be a little anxious until I'd see my g/f again or something, and have my heterosexual desires reinforced.

Finally I had another dream last week, was feeling really weird, and did some soul-searching. After a bit, it occurred to me I could be bisexual. But how to be sure? One can't base something like this on dreams alone.

So I thought it would be pretty straightforward to try and masturbate and focus on boys this time(did I mention I was a guy? I'm a guy.) Well, let me tell you that's a fast realization. I was elated, and confused, and relieved all at the same time.

And the ensuing days have all been kind of like that, too. It's been a bit of a roller-coaster ride. I'd be fine one minute, anxious the next, then happy. Things have been calming down as they go on and I get more used to the idea, though.

I mean, I know things won't feel normal right away, but is it partly because I didn't have any length of time where I just didn't know, and had time to prepare myself that I wasn't straight? Is it the shock of just finding out so fast? Has anyone else found out like that? What was it like for you?

Call yourself bi?

… You’d better be selling something!

Keeley Hawes. Currently gracing our screens alongside Aiden Gillen in Identity. And a fully paid up member of club-bi. How do we know? She told us so.
While promoting Tipping the Velvet in 2002, she enthused to Diva magazine, “I completely related to [my character]. Well, not completely because I’m not a lesbian. I’m bi.” Ladies across the country, me included, whimpered with glee. Keeley Hawes was one of us!
Except she wasn’t being entirely honest with us. In fact she was downright lying to us. When asked, six years later, to clarify the comment by Radio Times writer Andrew Duncan, Hawes back-pedaled. “Maybe what I meant,” she says, “is that everyone is a little bit bisexual.”
Most of us got over the ‘everyone’s bisexual really’ shtick in high school. But never mind that. What ever possessed Hawes to make such a statement in the first place? Was she riding on the coat-tails of bisexual chic? Or was she shamelessly promoting a queer TV show by reaching out to a queer audience?
Megan Mullally spent eight years playing acerbic socialite Karen Walker in the hugely successful sitcom Will & Grace. In 1999 she claimed in The Advocate, “I consider myself bisexual, and my philosophy is [that] everyone innately is.” Mullally’s definition of bisexuality seems a little… loose, to say the least. When declaiming her view with a 200+ word elucidation in an interview with AfterElton.com, Mullally said, “It can just mean that you don’t have to be afraid to hug, or, like, if you’re a straight woman — quote-unquote — and you have a great girlfriend and you want to hold hands with her … or cuddle, good, do it.” Right. And the sexual attraction element comes into that where exactly? Megan, Megan, Megan. Understand this: holding hands with a woman doesn’t make you queer any more that eating escargot makes you French.
But wait! What show was Mullally promoting when she made her claim to bisexuality? Oh yeah, it was that one about a gay man living with his straight best friend.
Unfortunately, these two ladies are not the only ones jumping on the bi-wagon in pursuit of a bit of publicity. Asked by Genre magazine in 2006 if she was attracted to women, so-so singer Nelly Furtado – she of Promiscuous and I’m Like a Bird fame – answered, “Absolutely. I think women are beautiful and sexy.” Just two weeks later she retracted the statement: “I guess I was humouring the journalist a little.” She went on to tell the entertainment editor of Australia’s Sydney Morning Herald that she was slightly embarrassed by her words, but she really appreciates her gay, lesbian and bisexual fans. Oh, well, that makes it okay then.
Like Tila Tequila, whose reality show A Shot at Love With Tila Tequila, in which both male and female contestants battled for the heart of the glamour model, was cancelled amid rumours that the shows star was not only not single, but not bisexual either, it seems that Furtado was all too willing to claim a sexuality alien to her for a bit of publicity without a thought for the members of the bisexual community who face negative reactions on a near daily basis. I am sad to say that the most common biphobic remark I’ve heard is that bisexuality doesn’t exist. ‘I don’t believe in bisexuality,’ said a woman to me at London Pride 2008. She was wearing a t-shirt emblazoned with the phrase ‘don’t tell me who I can love’. The irony was lost on her.
Why is this attitude so prevalent? The fact is, I don’t know, but if I had to guess, I’d suggest that the flippancy with which the celebrity world dons and discards sexualities as the mood, or the promotional opportunity, suits it certainly helps. Whether we like it or not, celebrity culture is a huge influence on all our lives. They prescribe our attitudes toward our relationships, our bodies, our clothes. They are role models, and if they declare anything – bisexuality, veganism, a love of the works of Andrew Lloyd Webber, a lot of people will follow suit. But rescinding one’s views on Andrew Lloyd Webber doesn’t have the cultural impact that rescinding one’s bisexuality does. Now, I don’t want anyone to wear a label that they’re not comfortable with, but – and this might be a crazy idea – how about not claiming it in the first place?
Of course, we mustn’t presume that any celebrity claiming bisexuality is seeking column inches at expense of accuracy – Angelina Jolie’s high-profile relationship with Jenny Shimizu and Duncan ‘Blue’ James’ coming out in tabloid newspaper News of the World attest to this. Another celebrity coming out as bi may well be a true statement of identity, but it seems equally likely to be borne of more pecuniary motivations.
As early as 1993 David Bowie renounced his bisexuality, declaring “I was physical about it, but frankly it wasn’t enjoyable at all”. Whether celebrity faux-bisexuality is a product of a desire to shock, a free-lovin’ political statement or a mechanism to keep a name in the papers, it is damaging to our community. It perpetuates the myths that bisexuality doesn’t really exist and that it is engendered purely for the titillation of the voyeur. It’s a sad, sad situation, but for now, it seems, it’s one that we’re stuck with.

Bisexual Submissive Women

The Submissive Bisexual Woman
Does just reading the title arouse you? It could be that you are a bisexual submissive woman. Bisexual women are very sexual as a rule, and many bisexual women are submissive when it comes to sex play and the bedroom. Female submission describes a relationship in which a female submits sexually, to a dominant partner. The submission can be voluntary and consensual or may be obtained as a result of rape or duress.
The dominant partner is usually a man, but could also be another woman, or more than one person. The term "female submission" most commonly refers to a woman who derives sexual pleasure from the act of submission to men.
Submission can take the form of passivity or obedience in relation to any aspect of conduct and behavior. Submission can be to a partner in an interpersonal relationship, such as allowing the sex partner to initiate all sexual activity as well as setting the time and place and sex positions. It can also be in relation to the type of sexual activity that the partners will engage in, including non-conventional sex such as anal sex, or BDSM or sexual role play.
Some sex positions, such as doggy style, require a woman to be passive while an active sex partner performs sex acts on her, and this may be seen as a form of submission. Obedience may be a part of a sexual role play or activity, and can also be in the relation to the style of dress, if any, or behavior or any other manner. In fact, any act that is performed on a passive woman, such as undressing her, may be regarded as submissive behavior on the part of the woman.
A 1985 study suggests that about 30% of participants in BDSM activities are females. A 1995 study indicates that 89% of females active in BDSM, expressed a preference for a submissive-recipient role in sexual bondage, suggesting also a preference for a dominant male, and 71% of males preferred a dominant-initiator role.
Submission may be manifested in a multitude of ways whereby a woman relinquishes sexual or personal control to another, such as acts of servitude, submission to humiliation or punishment such as erotic spanking, or other activities, at times in association with bondage. The level and type of submission can vary from person to person, and from one time to another.
Some women choose to include occasional sexual submission in an otherwise conventional sex life. For example, a woman may adopt a submissive role during a sexual activity to overcome a sexual inhibition she may have. A woman may choose to submit full-time, becoming a lifestyle slave.
Some people derive erotic pleasure from the submissiveness of a sex partner, which they may regard as a turn-on; and some people regard Obvious passivity as a form of feminine flirting or seduction. Some women sexually submit to the sexual wishes of their partner for the pleasure of the partner, which may itself result in sexual pleasure for the submissive woman.
Some feminist writers argue that female sexual submission can amount to sexual objectification. Others who practice female submission, claim that the act of submitting is a conscious, freeing event which has no impact or correlation to sexual objectification, as it is voluntary and requires significant self-actualization to accomplish.
When female subservience occurs as a consequence of a social system in which males, either as fathers or husbands, hold legal or de facto authority and power over related women, children, and household property, the arrangement is generally known as patriarchy and has historically been the norm in nearly all human cultures. This is not the same as voluntary submissive behavior in the bedroom by willing, sexually aroused women in healthy relationships.

Coming Out as Bisexual


Bisexual Girls :12 Facts About Sexual Orientation

  • Bisexual, lesbian and gay people cannot be identified merely by certain mannerisms or physical characteristics. People who are lesbian, gay or bisexual come in as many different shapes, colors and sizes as do people who are heterosexual.
  • Sexual experiences as a child are not necessarily indicative of one's sexual orientation as an adult. Many lesbian, gay and bisexual people have early heterosexual experiences, but are still lesbian, gay or bisexual; many avowed heterosexuals have had sexual contact with members of their own sex, but are still heterosexual.
  • No one knows what causes sexual orientation. Many lesbian, gay and bisexual people know that they are attracted to members of their own sex at an early age, sometimes as young as 6 or 7 years old. Others learn much later in life, in their 30's, 40's or 50's. Some research indicates that sexual orientation is determined between birth and age 3, but no one is sure what causes particular orientations.
  • Many people accuse lesbian, gay and bisexual people of "flaunting" their sexuality when they talk about their partner, hold hands or kiss one another in public. These are activities that heterosexual couples do all the time. Due to homophobic reactions, some lesbian, gay and bisexual people are actually forced to hide their sexuality in public, not flaunt it.
  • People who are lesbian, gay and bisexual work in all types of jobs and they live in all types of situations. They belong to all ethnic and racial groups. They are members of all religious communities. They exhibit a range of mental and physical capabilities. They are young, middle aged, and old.
  • Sometimes oppression based on sexual orientation escalates into acts of physical violence. In surveys of lesbian, gay and bisexual people, 52-87% have been verbally harassed, 21-27% have been pelted with objects, 13-38% have been chased or followed and 9-24% have been physically assaulted.
  • Most lesbian, gay and bisexual people are comfortable with their own biological sex; they don't regard themselves as members of the opposite sex.
  • Being lesbian, gay or bisexual is not the same as being transgender.
  • The majority of child molesters are heterosexual men, not lesbian, gay or bisexual people. Almost all studies show that over 90% of child molestation is committed by heterosexual men.
  • Homosexuality is not a type of mental illness and cannot be "cured" by psychotherapy. Although homosexuality was once thought to be a mental illness, the American Psychiatric and Psychological Associations no longer consider it to be one. Psychiatric and psychological attempts to "cure" lesbians and gay men have failed to change the sexual orientation of the patient. These "treatments" may help change sexual behavior temporarily but also can create emotional trauma.
  • There is no definable gay “lifestyle”. Similarly, there is no standard heterosexual lifestyle. Some people might like to think that a "normal" adult lifestyle is a heterosexual marriage with two children. Less than 7% of all family units in the U.S. consist of a mother, a father and two children living together.
  • The most accurate generalization might be this: lesbian, gay and bisexual people are different from one another in the same ways that heterosexual people are different from one another.

Bisexual dating: Girls Who Like Girls and Then Boys

We all know how much I love to generalize and this time the bisexuals are in the hot seat.

Why is it that the bisexual women I know play the lezzo game for a while but end up with men? Is one side better than the other? How is that even determined? Do bisexuals really exist or is the concept a fallacy – a misconception based on a handful of chicks that couldn’t make up their minds or liked sex so much that it didn’t matter who with? Look at Sappho, it was 776 BC for fuck’s sake. What else was there to do besides fuck everyone and write poems about it? She is declared to be the first (witnessed) lesbian in history but ended up marrying a dude, so…?

I can see how dating women but marrying men would be the logical choice. You can actually marry a man, he can provide you with children and fix things around the house, like light bulbs which have blown, as chairs obviously do not exist to climb upon to bring light to one’s room once more. What’s a chair?
I’m going to break down the different types of bisexuals that I have experienced. Let’s begin.

TYPE 1 – THE LEGITS:
If being gay isn’t a choice, than we can only assume that being bisexual isn’t either, right? The New York Times studied the legitimacy of bisexuality by testing people’s genital arousal in response to pictures. Most men who claimed to be bi were lying about their attraction to women – but the women who claimed to love both were legit.
I think it comes down to downtown. Vanilla style shagging means you can tune-out and pretend you’re having an immensely realistic fantasy, but ask a straightie if she could nosedive and I guarantee the color will drain from her face. They’ve got one, but can’t get in one.
So this leads me to believe that if you’re legitimately bisexual then there must be something in your brain which stops you feeling physically ill whilst giving head to either sex. I would rather eat goat testicles than be in close proximity to real ones. If the choice was to have a dick in and around my mouth or not have sex for a year – I would go celibate. For anyone who has known or shagged me – this is a big effin deal.

TYPE 2 – THE ‘I WAS GAY ONCE’ ERS:
I fucking hate Hasbians.
I know a bunch of lezzos who converted straighties, had major relationships with them, assumed they were going to live happily ever after and shit But Bam – she’s offed a dude and it’s all over. I don’t know if it’s cold feet or they genuinely miss humping. I know that lesbians can be cray but isn’t the sex worth it? I am bias and speaking from a lesbian heart, body, soul and pussy but if it’s not the ‘happily ever after’ fantasy –than what?

TYPE 3 – OCCASIONALLY-WHEN-IT-SUITS-ME:
These are the types who were bi in high school but then actually realize that no, they’re not at all – whoops. I hate attention seekers who drunk-pash girls. Really, the only ones that find these chicks hot are dudes, or other attention seeking wannabes.
I feel bad for lesbians who get caught up in the pursuit of a conversion. It takes a fuck load of effort and groundwork and it nearly never pays off. Yes, you get a hot straightie, someone out of the clique and a girl-sex virgin but you also get constant paranoia, relentless male perving and conjured images of your GF’s cumshot face.
Woody Allen once said that bisexuality immediately doubles your chances for a date on a Saturday night. But does it really? Bisexuality seems to be a curse – high-risk scenario for lesbians, high-fantasy scenario for men. Also, wouldn’t you have to have some kind of split personality to enjoy both sexes? They’re so vastly different. How can a woman wearing Chanel lipstick and satin lingerie to a man wearing a football jersey and cotton briefs out of a Target 10-pack be considered the same amount of hotness?
A couple of really close friends of mine have been royally fucked over by chicks playing the bi-game and I’m kinda sick of it. Pick a side or a title and stick to it. If you’re bisexual, say you’re bisexual. Don’t say you just happened to fall in love with a chick and then commit the lesbian sin of all sins by leaving her for a man. People who say they fall in love with the person but not the sex are looking for a scapegoat in case one day they decide that eating gash isn’t as fun as wearing a white dress.

Bisexual threesome: DIY Threesomes



Is there anyone out there who hasn’t fantasized about a threesome? Anyone at all? Didn’t think so. It’s the most popular sexual fantasy out there, and for good reason. Sex is great, and adding another person to the fun is like pouring hot sauce on your food. More flavor in every bite. As bisexuals, we experience sex with men and women, so what better way is there to revel in your bisexuality than in a roll in the hay with one of each?

When we dream about our ultimate sexual experience, we picture an ebb and flow, a give and take; an easy, graceful act with seamless transitions from one position to the next. All we have to do is gaze into the other person’s eyes, and we’ll know exactly what to do. Having sex is easy, right? Think again. If you think sexual maneuvering between two people can be complicated, adding a third person into the mix can be downright difficult. You’ve got some planning to do. Not only do you have to wonder who to include in your sex play, but now the question is How?

Many threesomes start out with a couple looking for a third person. In the straight world, it’s often two women and one man, as many het guys are uncomfortable with another erection in the room. Luckily, as bisexuals, we’ve got a whole world of choice just waiting for us. Will it be two guys and a gal? Will it be a homogeneous group? Who will be doing whom? Consider the guidelines outlined below and you’ll be well on your way to a pile of fun.

COMMUNICATE: It’s not the most exciting instruction ever, but it’s essential to having a sexual encounter that’s satisfying for everyone involved, and can prevent uncomfortable moments after fulfilling the passion. It doesn’t matter when you talk about these things, but be sure to cover all the bases. Talking about your desires, expectations and potential triggers is vital to making sure that no one’s feelings are hurt, that you have a safe and healthy time, and, above all, talking about it increases your chances of getting to do it again!

If you’re a couple searching for a third person, you have to be very aware of power dynamics. Couples are used to one another, and are aware of what pleases the other person. Bringing a third person into your bed can be intimidating for the newbie in the group.You’ve probably got all kinds of silent communication that the third person won’t be aware of, routines that you follow or body language that expresses arousal or discomfort and this can tip the power balance in your favor. Encounters between three single people can be less complicated, emotionally, but still require each participant to disclose vital information about themselves.

Things to discuss before you take off your clothes:

  1. Exactly what will be involved? Who is comfortable doing what, and to whom? What are your turn ons and turn offs? Do you love giving head? Do you hate having your anus touched? Are you comfortable being spanked? Sex means lots of things to many different people, don’t make assumptions about what people consider to be sex acts, or about what they’re willing to do. Who will be penetrated, if anyone? Will there be toys? Will you be at someone’s home, or will you choose the more anonymous hotel room?
  2. What kinds of safety measures will be taken? Will you have code words, similar to engaging in S/M play? Will friends know where you are?
  3. Safe sex is important here. Remember that condoms need to be changed every time the partner changes. This goes for toys and penises. Will you use dental dams? Who’s bringing the lube? Even couples who are fluid-bonded (those who no longer use barrier methods of protection) need to use condoms, gloves or dams with a new partner. It’s best to be prepared for these things. Nothing is less sexy than having to run out to the drugstore in the middle of things.

GET GOING
Okay, all the talking is over, and the fun can begin. But now you’re sitting around looking at one another like dorks. What should you do to kick things off? The same thing you would do with any other partner: watch some porn, give each other massages, have a pillow fight, hang out in a hot tub, talk dirty to one another, whatever you want. Just pick something that you all agree is sexy.

Threesomes can involve some serious gymnastics, if you like, or they can be pretty meat and potatoes. With a variety of breasts, hips, butts, cocks and mouths it can be difficult to decide where to start. Here are some suggestions:

The Voyeur: One person refrains entirely from sexual activity and just watches. They might make comments or masturbate, but they don’t actually touch the other two people involved. This can be a great way to integrate a third person into your play without the emotional complications of physical contact. It’s also a good way to test yourself to see if you’re committed to a triad. The voyeur can also take a leadership role, telling the other two people what to do. Don’t think that the person who is watching is missing out on the fun. It’s like directing your own porno flick, only better.

Tag Team: One person can lay, sit, or stand and the other two participants can do whatever they like. It works nicely if you divide the receiving partner in half, with one person taking the chest, head and torso, and the third person taking the legs, feet and groin. This is a great way to start a threesome, and is particularly fun when everyone takes turns being satisfied by two people at once. Lick, suck, stroke, caress, or nibble on whatever shows up in your vicinity. Two mouths on one body can produce an awful lot of pleasure; this can make for some pretty mind blowing orgasms. What could be more enjoyable than having two people fulfill your every erotic wish, at once? Just lie back and relax…if you can!

Two People on Top: A guy, or girl with a strap-on lays face up with one person straddling their hips and the other person sits astride their face. The two people on top can face each other and kiss or fondle each other. Another possibility is that they both face the same way, which can allow for penetration with toys or fingers or anal play. The person on the bottom is going down on one person, and penetrating another. The top two players are both getting off at once. One small warning: The person who is giving head and fucking the second person may not provide the best oral sex ever. They may be a little distracted. Having a vibrator on hand can fix that problem.

Doggy Style: This is a favorite of many seasoned swingers. One person, A, lays on their back and a second person, B, crouches between their legs. Person B can go down on person A, while Person C can play with person B doggy style. Again, we’ve got the combination of oral sex and penetration, or finger fucking. As a bonus, doggy style is also the best position to hit someone’s g-spot. This is a great way for two girls and a guy to all get involved at the same time. It also works well for three girls and a strap-on. It’s also a possibility for three guys at once, if the middle person is into anal penetration. For any group of three, it’s a great way for the middle person to get spanked.

Doggy Style Variations: One Person lays down, and is straddled by another person who is facing forward. The person facing forward can provide oral sex or a hand job to another person standing in front of them. While this sounds complicated and technical, it’s pretty simple to execute. Another possibility is for one person to sit on the first person’s lap and to pleasure the third person who is standing in front of them. This works best if the person standing is a guy. A technical point: it’s easier to give head to a guy who is standing than it is to effectively eat pussy from this angle.

Oral Sex Triangle: This one is pretty self-explanatory. It’s like that team building game you can play where each person lays with their head on another person’s stomach and tries not to laugh. Except for the Triangle we’re talking about you lay face down in someone’s crotch, instead of face up. It’s like a sixty-nine, only for three people, not two.


If you’re looking for more inspiration, watch some good porn, peruse the Kama Sutra, or make a visit to your local sex store. Or you could just lay in a big naked heap and see what happens. If you foresee lots of threesomes in your future, you may want to invest in a sling or swing, or if you have a very private backyard, a hammock. Having someone suspended in mid-air gives easy access for two people to genitals and chests and mouths. It takes a lot of the acrobatics out of fitting three people on a bed or couch. Above all, use your imagination. If it feels good, repeat it! If you’re lucky, the combined erotic imagination of several people will create all kinds of new experiences for you.

Before you set off on a world of adventure, there’s just one last word about communication. Don’t forget to debrief afterwards. Having sex with more than one person at once can be an emotionally powerful experience. Be sure to check in with your playmates to make sure that everyone feels secure and happy afterward. You can do it in the shower right after, over email the next day or on the telephone. Let everyone know you appreciated their openness and are committed to their happiness. If someone has just fulfilled a lifelong erotic fantasy of yours, it’s only polite to say thank you.

bisexual: Gif trio


Bisexual advice and dating support

I'm a 100% bisexual.I don't know what should i do when found myself is bisexual.So i google "bisexual" and found some bisexual online sites.Those sites help me so much.I will show some sites of them to everyone.hope they will be helpful as it done to me.

How do I know I'm bisexual?

Bisexual Youth Group
Sexual orientation isn't something that most people understand overnight.  You might be questioning your sexual orientation or already identify as bisexual.  Bisexual means that you are romantically/sexually attracted to both males and females. Some people who identify as bisexual say that they are more attracted to men and less attracted to women, some say they are more attracted to women and less attracted to men, some are equally attracted to both genders.

Just like peoples opinions on people identifying as gay; there are many opinions about identifying as bisexual.  Here are some of the questions people who identify as bisexual may hear:  Are you just greedy?  Why can't you make up your mind?  Aren't you just confused?  You just want to hook up with a girl because your boyfriend thinks it's hot, right?  Sound familiar?
We are here to tell you that identifying as bisexual is just as real as identifying as lesbian or gay!  A lot of different factors can make coming out as bisexual a stressful situation.  IYG believes that no matter what anyone tells you, that identifying as bisexual was something that was predetermined for you much like being left-handed or the color of your hair.
Some people who identify as bisexual decide that they prefer to be identified as pansexual, or polysexual.If you don't know who to tell about your sexual orientation,You can find additional info about coming out as a bisexual from these websites:

 

Coming Out as Bisexual

If only coming out were that simple: something done easily and only once, and oncedone, complete.

On the contrary, coming out is a complex process. We come out to ourselves. We come out to our parents, our friends, our neighbors, our parents’ friends, and the friends of our neighbors. We come out to our immediate and extended family. We come out to our classmates, our co-workers and our health providers.


And coming out is not simply a one-time event. It is something done repeatedly throughout our lives. We must weigh the benefits and risks of coming out to every new friend, family member, employer, coworker and so on. The stakes can be high. Unlike people with gay or straight identities, we must decide when and whether to come out to potential romantic partners and risk a negative or biphobic response.

One important issue is health: Like lesbians, gay men and transgender people, bisexuals must weigh whether to come out to health care professionals. On one hand, we may fear a negative response and poor treatment; on the other, our silence leaves providers with incomplete information and may put our health at risk.
(Keep in mind that health care professionals are trained to assist people of any orientation. They are also required to keep what you say to them confidential and completely private. And some health care facilities and LGBT community centers can provide you with names of professionals who include a focus on LGBT people as one of their specialties. You can always call and ask!)

Sometimes we must even come out more than once to the same person, to clarify what we have said, or to overcome their denial.

We may also need to come out more than once if we experience a shift in our own identity. Someone formerly identified as gay may decide that the word bisexual is a better fit. Or vice versa. Or you might have fallen in love with one particular man when you had previously only fallen in love with women. Or vice versa.

Finally, not only bisexual people must come out. Once we are out to friends and family, they too must deal with questions of whether, how and to whom they will share information about us.


Why come out? Some of us come out because they feel the alternative is misunderstanding. This is particularly true for bisexuals, as we are so rarely seen by others as bisexual. Bisexuals cannot come out as bi simply by mentioning a partner, or by being seen at a “community” event, and many feel it’s important to validate their identity.

At a more intimate level, the cost of silence can be great. Failure to communicate, to share important information about ourselves, often creates a barrier between us and our loved ones. Ideally, we want those close to us to know us not as their illusion of who we are, but as we truly are.

But unfortunately, it’s not so simple. While there are many good reasons to come out, you may also have reasons to choose not to. Think things through. Take advantages of resources that are available. There are many coming out resources for LGBT youth on the web:

Ads by Google




#1 Bisexual Dating Site Register No 1 Bisexual Dating Site, Find Bi Match in Local Area.
meetbi.com.There are many bisexual, bicurious women and lesbian on this site. See proflies, photos and email are all free.
www.singlebi.com    Meet Local Hot Bisexual Singles and Couples. Sign Up and View At Once


Ask around.

If you live in a big city or metropolitan area, it is likely to have its bisexual village and have its bisexual bars and community centers. Alcohol can always alter your judgment. My suggestion is to go to a bar with some friends. Check the scene out and see if you feel comfortable.



Visit the bisexual dating sites to read what other persons in your city or state are saying online.

This is one of the best ways that you can take one look at a man or woman and know whether or not he/she's bisexual. Their profile say it all. Even if you don't care to get involved in forum discussions, you can get information about community events, and you may even post a question, anonymously or otherwise, about good places to meet other bisexual people.