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The stranger who helped me discover I’m bisexual

By ANONYMOUS
 
June 9, 2013. The Capital Pride Festival was taking place on Capitol Hill. The streets were filled with people and the rainbow flags waved high and proud over the crowd. It was a gorgeous day, and one I’ll always remember.

I arrived with my friend, Angie; we are huge supporters of Capital Pride and when we found out that Icona Pop was going to be there, let’s just say we were ready for the weekend. We made our way to the stage area. While we were waiting for the pop duo to perform, my heart stopped. I know it sounds like a cliché, but that’s what happened, that’s the cold, hard truth. I saw a girl. I didn’t know her name, her age or her story, but I felt something when I looked in her eyes; a feeling I get only when I swear I know a stranger on the street from a past life.

She was beautiful, but not the mainstream “all-American girl” type, in a unique way that made me want to get to know her. This was amazing, but also nerve-wracking as hell. I knew I was attracted to both boys and girls, but I never pursued any girls, because of the fear of being judged. As I was standing around pondering my next step, a girl came up to Angie and me. I didn’t recognize her, but she began to speak to us. She asked if we were a couple. We replied with a quick “no” and explained that we just match our outfits purely for the fun of it. Then she left, retreating back to her group of friends.

That’s when I noticed that she was talking to the girl. My knees buckled, my palms got sweaty, and my breath quickened. The girl who spoke to us returned, and she asked us about our sexual orientation. Angie said she was straight, and I said I was open to both boys and girls (I didn’t feel quite right saying I was bisexual before I had even been with a girl). The girl was thrilled and pulled my hand, and I took Angie’s. We were brought over to her group of friends. Miriam. That was her name. The girl. We were introduced and we began to talk. I was still nervous, but she was so cool. In the short amount of time that we got to talk, I learned a lot about her, and we had a lot in common.

I felt my stomach turn and my heart beat rapidly with excitement. I really liked this girl. We exchanged numbers and I texted her once later that summer, but nothing ever happened. I let her go. I owed Miriam a lot; she helped me truly discover who I am. I am bisexual. I felt for her the same way I felt for boys or other girls, with one exception: I wanted to get to know her more.

But I let her go. I still have her contact in my phone, and I’m tempted to call or text, but I don’t, because I think she no longer remembers me, but that doesn’t stop me from remembering her.

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Bi Dating: How to Meet Bisexual Women ?

You are attracted to her but are confused.You think that she may feel the same way about you,but she is with another man. Is she bisexual or is she just being friendly? This is a question that plagues many lesbian or bisexual women who are looking to date other bisexual women.Below are some good places to look and find women who could be bisexual and interested.
①Try looking at online dating sites
This is one of the ways that you can take one look at a woman and know whether or not she's bisexual. Her profile says it all. It's never a good idea to go up to a lady in a bar and say,

The most famous 16 bisexuals in the world.

As a bisexual,you should know 
the most famous bisexuals in the world.
1.Anthony Rapp
 5.3    Listal rating
Stats:
Birth Name: Anthony Dean Rapp  
Age: 41, born 26 October 1971
Born and residing in: United States
Height: 5' 8"
Ethnicity: White / Caucasian
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2.Anna Paquin
6.7   Listal rating
Stats:
Birth Name: Anna Helene Paquin
Age: 30, born 24 July 1982
Country of origin: Canada
Currently Residing In: United States
Height: 5' 5"
Ethnicity: White / Caucasian
Relationship Status: Married
Partner: Stephen Moyer
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3.Billie Joe Armstrong
7.3   Listal rating
Stats:
Age: 40, born 17 February 1972
Relationship Status: Married
Partner: Adrienne Nesser
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Bisexual Dating in USA - Dating Opportunities for Bisexual Men and Women in the United States

In a world where homosexuals want to be accepted as having been born homosexual, and heterosexuality is still the norm, bisexuals are viewed by some as deviant nymphomaniacs who love just any sex. Take this label in stride as it doesn't really matter (some people are even turned on by the notion) and take comfort in the fact that your dating landscape is twice as wide as that of wholly straight or gay individuals!

Homosexuality is still considered by some in the United States as immoral or unnatural, but the general population's opinion on the issue has been steadily swaying in the direction of acceptance, for some time, and at this point, being a homophobe is seen by many in the same light as being a racist. Prejudice exists of course, but the prejudice against prejudice has a pretty good foothold in American culture as well. With that said, going to the local honky tonk festival or to the nearest church function is not likely to land you a whole lot of same sex dates, nor is it likely to land you a person of the opposite sex who is totally cool with you being willing to date people of your own gender. Put yourself in more liberal or neutral environments and your odds of stumbling across other bisexual people increases. Dance clubs are a good bet, as are shopping malls and fashion based establishments.

Bisexual Women: How to Flirt

Knowing when and how to flirt can be a little tricky, especially if you're new to the lesbian and bisexual scene. Here are some guidelines to help get you started flirting with lesbian, bisexual or bi-curious women.

Consider how you feel when someone flirts with you. You probably enjoy the attention and feel flattered even if you aren't interested in the person doing the flirting. They will most like feel the same way when you throw subtle flirts their way.  Just muster up your confidence and give it a try.

Flirting can be obvious such as walking up and making conversation or more subtle such as shifting your body toward her while flashing a faint smile. Lesbians particularly enjoy flirting of the eyes.
Everybody is different, but women who are attracted to women generally seem to flirt in a more subtle way than men.

Flirting is part art and part observation of human behavior. Here is a list of some common ways women flirt with other women;

-Starting conversation with her
-Complimenting her
-Locking of eye contact
-Glancing down at her lips while you're talking
-Smiling at her
-Smiling with your eyes
-Standing or sitting close
-Leaning toward her
-Biting your lips
-Twirling or playing with hair
-Touching her on the arm or leg to make a point
-Picking lint off her clothes (even if it isn't really there)

If you're going out on the town and you're ready to get your flirt on, try these tips to get yourself prepared. The first step is to look and feel good before you even walk out the door. Get dressed in something that makes you feel good and confident about yourself. When you arrive make sure you hold your head up and walk with an air of confidence. Loosen up and smile. Get out and mingle. Talk to people and flirt when you feel an attraction. See if they respond in kind.

When all else fails just walk up and say hi, my name is (insert your name here), what's yours? If you end up in a conversation that's great. If not, you were being friendly and that's always nice, right? This simple approach works more often than you might think.

Remember that most of the women you bump into in a bar or social setting are going to be sitting there waiting for someone to approach them. They probably haven't read our guide on how to flirt with women. Be bold - go get 'em!

How Marvel’s Loki Became A Bi-curious Villain

In Norse mythology, Loki is a shape-shifting god who enjoys the occasional turn as a woman. The gender bender doesn’t discriminate—sometimes he’s even a female animal. In fact, Loki was once mounted by a stallion. He then gave birth to an eight-legged horse.
Thor
Tim Hiddleston as Loki in Thor: The Dark World. (Walt Disney Co.)
So when comic book writer Al Ewing, who’s working on the solo story Loki: Agent of Asgard, wrote on Tumblr recently that the character would be bisexual and that he would “shift between genders,” it wasn’t a huge surprise.
Marvel has yet to confirm this new direction for the character, perhaps because the whole idea of a queer superhero is complicated by the fictional character’s other gig: as arguably the most popular character in a string of blockbuster superhero movies, from The Avengers to this weekend’s Thor: The Dark World, which has already raked in $100 million overseas and could match that total in domestic receipts within days. Yet according to those who know the comic book world, the whole discussion is moot: Loki’s fluid gender has nothing to do with sexual orientation at all. It’s about guile, and that’s why we Loki.
Played masterfully by English actor Tom Hiddleston, the movie version of Loki, Thor’s brother, is sensitive and slim, with long hair and feminine features. (Just watch this scene.) He wears a long coat that resembles a dress. In the new film, Loki morphs himself into Captain America, glances in the general direction of his crotch, and says that his suit feels tight. Still not convinced? A Chinese theater accidentally displayed a fan-made poster of Thor and Loki in a romantic embrace.
At a recent screening, Hiddleston was applauded whenever he appeared on screen. People like him. Christian Bale’s Batman, Tobey Maguire’s Spider-Man, and Robert Downey Jr.’s Iron Man were fine in tights. But they’re essentially just crimefighting bros.
Lex Fajardo, creator of the graphic novel series Kid Beowulf, really likes Loki, too. In his series, characters say “Holy Loki” when something exciting happens. His three-year-old border collie is named Loki. But Fajardo says applying the word “bisexual” to the movie version of his favorite hero—or any other fixed label—is nearly impossible. “With Loki you never know what you’re going to get! Will he be helpful or will he be deceitful? Will he look like a human or a horse? Will he be a he or a she?”
He’s not alone in that assessment. Roger Langridge, who wrote the comic-book series Thor: The Mighty Avenger in 2010, doesn’t think the “flimsy” nature of an imaginative character can even support the moral weight of this conversation. “It’s a potentially interesting subject,” he says. “But in a superhero comic it’ll probably just get in the way of all the fighting and pretty costumes.” If it were up to him, Langridge would make the comics resemble the movies, at least superficially, because that’s what a new generation of readers wants. He’s right. And that’s essentially what’s being done.
“Male villains are often portrayed as effeminate. Chicks, historically, have gotten bad press.”
Inevitably, however, the labels will be affixed. Moviegoers will call Loki “gay” or “bisexual” or whatever else. And that could be problematic. An examination of the cover of Ewing’s book reveals something unsettling, as gay author Andy Mangels points out. It’s right there, in big letters: “Prince of Lies.” “When you’re dealing with an amoral antihero style character who is generally portrayed as a villain and a liar, who uses trickery as their modus operandi, that can play into different psychological elements,” Mangels says, “What does that say about women? And gay people?”
“Male villains are often portrayed as effeminate,” says Paige Braddock, author of the lesbian-friendly comic strip Jane’s World. Disney is a notorious offender (remember Jafar?) “Chicks, historically, have gotten bad press.”
Then again, it wasn’t so long ago there was a truly effeminate main character in a blockbuster superhero film—one who was cheered and loved in spite of his nefarious plots to kill everyone in his fictional universe. It was Heath Ledger’s Joker, and he was still pretty cool.

Study: Straight Men Less Likely to See Bisexuality as 'Legitimate Sexual Orientation'

Bisexuals are often given short shrift when it comes to awareness and advocacy about LGBT issues, subject to prejudice and a general lack of visibility.  According to a new study from the University of Pittsburgh Graduate School of Public Health, there are notable differences in attitudes towards bisexuality along gender, racial and sexuality lines.  From a press release today announcing the study's results:
500px-University_of_Pittsburgh_Seal_(official).svgMen who identify themselves as heterosexual are three times more likely to categorize bisexuality as "not a legitimate sexual orientation," an attitude that can encourage negative health outcomes in people who identify as bisexual, according to an analysis led by University of Pittsburgh Graduate School of Public Health researcher Mackey Friedman, Ph.D., M.P.H.
"Bisexual men and women face prejudice, stigma and discrimination from both heterosexual and homosexual people," said Dr. Friedman, director of Project Silk, an HIV prevention initiative. "This can cause feelings of isolation and marginalization, which prior research has shown leads to higher substance use, depression and risky sexual behavior. It also can result in lower rates of HIV testing and treatment."
Dr. Friedman and his colleagues asked hundreds of college students for words they associated with bisexual people, getting responses such as 'confused,' 'different' and 'experimental.' They then wrote a 33-question survey which was administered to an online sample of 1,500 adults.  The results were illuminating, if disappointing:
Overall, respondents were generally negative in terms of their attitudes toward bisexual men and women, with almost 15 percent of the sample in disagreement that bisexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation. However, women, white people and people who identified themselves as lesbian, gay or bisexual had less bias and prejudice against bisexual people. Of note, respondents who identified as gay or lesbian responded significantly less positively toward bisexuality than those identifying as bisexual, indicating that even within the sexual minority community, bisexuals face profound stigma. In addition, these findings indicate that male bisexuals likely suffer more stigma than female bisexuals.
As the University of Pittsburgh study shows, not only does our country have a ways to go towards greater tolerance and visibility for bisexual issues--it seems the LGBT community itself has some soul-searching to do on the issue.

Bisexual community: Being Different

By:Mindkiller 

I'm bisexual, of course. Why else would I be here? And for anybody else who's bisexual, you know what I'm talking about when I say it's hard to be different. When you're discreet, nobody cares that you exist. When you're open about it, everybody seems to hate you. But really, people, is it really that much of a sin to make yourself different from the boring norm and love another human being, whatever sex they may be? 

I am the very definition of different when compared to the world I live in! I'm pretty much the opposite of sexy, I support the use of pot, I'm Buddhist, I have good reasons why polygamy is okay, most of the music I love is much older than I am, I love the frightening artwork of H.R. Giger as much as I love the most beautiful images of nature, I love cartoons more than I love live-action shows (yet I can't stand Japanese anime) so much so that I'm making it a career goal to be an animator, and, of course, I'm bisexual! But does that make me an evil person, when I am also smart, loving, funny and open-minded to all the people I meet who treat me as nicely? Society seems to think so! 

Who else here agrees that nobody should be afraid of being openly different in this world of ours?! Anybody? Come on, let's here some voices, people! Don't be afraid to point out your differences and eccentricities! What makes you wierd, huh? Whatever it is, say it and embrace it!

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Married & just found out wife is bisexual

Q:
Hi We've been married for 12 years and are going through some rough patches in our relationship. In therapy yesterday my wife broke down and said she has had strong desires to kiss and touch another woman for several years. It's torn her apart-she feels self loathing-because she feels guilty, ashamed, and worried that I would freak out. This is kind of the first time it's come up in our marriage. (She's had three experiences, most recently last year with someone who broke it off, and did it without me knowing-which hurt.)
I didn't freak out. I told her for the first time that I had a secret-I fell in love with my best friend in law school, felt ashamed, and hid it from her (which freaked her out!) I used to be very uncertain about my sexuality, but gravitated toward straight and settled into it (I'm about 90% straight and am not uncomf with the other 10 percent.) I also told her I am her friend, and even if we weren't married I would want to help her feel whole and accept her sexuality.
So my q: what should I/we do? I want my wife to feel whole, but I am a little concerned she will find out she's a lesbian, and leave me, or try to get emotional fulfillment from another woman and have an affair. But if this is just an urge, a need she has (soft lips), I'd rather she embrace it so she isn't conflicted and self hating. Are there any married couples who incorporate this into their relationship? Not really into threesomes, but I would want to give my OK first and know what's happening. I also wonder if I'm still bi-curious, which freaks her out bcse she's afraid I will become gay and leave her. I wonder if there is a controlled situation to experiment-like a sex surrogate? where the ground rules are laid out and we can go into it without judgment.
Thanks-D&N

A :
Well you could hire a male stripper with the ground rules that you suck his cock and he goes home right after. Then you can process it and discuss it with your wife. If it was me, I'd let her have complete freedom with another woman. Forget your fear-if she's a lesbian and runs off with her so be it. Don't be the one that stands in the way of your partners' happiness. That will ultimately wreck the relationship anyway. As for her fears of you being gay and leaving her, do something to "re-commit to her" after you suck a guys' cock. Then she'll know where you stand. It will also help her feel confident to go forward with another woman. Good luck.

Am i bisexual? Very confused

-By  Strawberryrose

Am I bi or not?
I have only ever fallen in love with men, and when I fall for them I fall really hard. I've had a few relationships and heaps of flings, all with men. I love the intimacy I feel during sex with men and I won't sleep with a guy unless I feel emotionally attracted or connected to him. I love the feeling of a man dominating in the bedroom and being the stronger sex. I'm only really attracted to tall men, and I'm attracted to strength, e.g. one of my favourite things is to have a guy pick me up and carry me. I have never felt the kind of passionate emotional attraction for a woman that I can feel for a man. Also, most of my friends are male, and until recently I preferred it that way.

And yet, I have always been fascinated by the nude female body, even before I reached puberty. I find females much, much more visually appealing than men when they are topless or nude. I am particularly turned on by breasts, I just think they are the sexiest things on this planet. If I watch porn, it's usually either girl on girl porn or some kind of group sex. If I watch straight porn I focus mostly on the girl and how she looks and what's happening to her. Strangely enough, i dont' really find girls kissing to be much of a turn-on, but girls playing with each other's bodies is amazing to me. I associate kissing with something more deeply emotional.

I recently had my first experience with a girl, and althought it didn't go all the way, it blew me away. THe softness of her skin was amazing. Touching each other's breasts in particular was just heaven. I couldn't stop thinking about the whole thing for days afterwards. And yet, I felt uncomfortable with the kissing part, and had to be coaxed into it, although it was nice when I finally did it.

After all this I found myself getting jealous when she talked about guys or spent too much time with other female friends. Eventually one night we attended a party together, and she was a bit flirty and i thought we would take things further, but then she forgot all about me when an attractive guy walked in. I was really really upset. And yet I don't feel the intense emotional attraction for her that I would for a man, I feel maybe one third or one quarter of what I would feel for a man. She still feels like just a friend but with a bit of extra closeness or something.
Yet, ever since we hooked up, I'm positively obsessed with having another lesbian experience, and not thinking about sex with males that much, although I do think about that too.

I'm soooo confused and don't know how I feel! I'm thinking having more experiences will clarify it, but don't know where I can get them.

Bisexuals: Taking Both Sides

There are certain advantages to going unseen. You can slip in and out of rival camps without a trace. You can study the disharmony between them, collecting precious perspectives from each. You can, perhaps one day, even learn to hold the paradox of both within yourself.

If you are bisexual, you are such a moving target. You are too slippery to be bound to fierce alliances. You don’t make the Either/Or choice that inherently leads to opposition. You are a chameleon who takes on the colour and climate of all sides, every shade as real as the last, on your changing skin.

But what if all you’ve ever wanted was to be visible, to be one solid, neutral blend of both? What if you wish you could lend a shaking fist to the injustice of segregation, but the ‘side’ you’re on doesn’t even exist? What if it’s the fence itself you’d like to tear down, but everyone keeps accusing you of sitting on it? What if the very people whose oppression you identify with, turn and exact the same discrimination on you, and your shapeshifting kind?

The bisexual movement is still very much in its infancy. Having only been born in the 1970’s, it still struggles to be acknowledged, have its issues made visible. It was only in 1990 that the first US national conference on bisexuality was held, and MeetBi.com, an organization that does outreach and lobbying along with gay/lesbian groups, was formed.

As with many oppressions before it, biphobia is gravely underestimated. In 1997, M.J. Eliason, a professor of Nursing and Psychology at the University of Iowa, did a survey1 of 229 heterosexual students. Of those surveyed, 40% found bisexuality less acceptable than homosexuality, with bisexual men being the least accepted (61% unacceptable).

But what is perhaps more troubling than the implications of this study, is the degree to which the crisis of bisexual invisibility is reinforced within the LGBT community.

Though we don’t like to admit it, a hierarchy of oppressions exists within the queer world, and bisexuality barely clings to its lower rungs. It is often felt that because bi’s can ‘pass’, vicariously benefiting from heterosexual privilege, the priority should remain with the more visible "lesbian and/or gay" issues. But as longtime queer activist and noted writer Suzanne Pharr points out, “Each [form of oppression], is terrible and destructive. To eliminate one oppression successfully, a movement has to include work to eliminate them all or success will always be limited and incomplete.2

It isn’t surprising to us that a chasm exists between gay and straight communities, since their aims are so divergent, but for the queer collective to clash within itself, when the issues of discrimination are so common, we might have come to expect more.

In the 1950’s, Alfred Kinsey taught us that sexual orientation should be seen as a continuum, that we all, to whatever degree, fall somewhere along the hetero/homo stratification. But this information, as corroborative as it is, isn’t nearly powerful enough to reform a deeply encultured “Us and Them” mentality.

The fear of ambiguity is always the same, no matter the locus. We are a world culture infatuated with the binary model. We erect and uphold opposition in politics, religion, race, gender and perhaps most insidiously, in language itself. We teach that whatever category we are inside, it is superior to the other outside of us.

Our entire socioeconomic system of power relies on factionary thinking. The great menace, according to this schema, lies in ambiguity. Ambiguity, or the lack of side-taking, is deeply unsettling because it answers the Either/Or question, with a strange, unchoosing Yes.

The bisexual person represents a threat to that social certainty. He or she contains both the self and the other, housing the two sides in one body, bringing the very issue of sexual borders into question.

One of the great untold stories of World War II is from 1943, in German-occupied Denmark, when the Danish people were told that all 7,500 Danish Jews were about to be rounded up and deported to German concentration camps.

The legend says that when the Germans ordered the Jews to identify themselves by wearing armbands with yellow stars, King Christian X of Denmark donned one himself. As he made his daily horseback ride through the streets of Copenhagen, he explained to citizens that he wore the Star of David to demonstrate that all Danes are equal. Following his example, all non-Jewish Danes began wearing the armband as well, thus preventing the Germans from singling out the Jewish citizens and turning the order effectively on its ear.

There’s something tremendous to be learned from King Christian’s story. By wearing the armband, he declared himself and his country indivisible. He embodied the solution to the problem Martin Luther King Jr. raised when he said, “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.”

According to psychologist Gordon W. Allport, “... man has a propensity to prejudice. This propensity lies in his normal and natural tendency to form generalizations, concepts, and categories, whose content represents an oversimplification of his world of experience.3

In other words, not only are we compelled to categorize all things, but we do their complexity further injustice by labeling them. Ultimately, we name things to reassure our insatiable need for definition. (This habit is exemplified in the queer community, with its fattening dictionary of delineation.) But the very act of naming something is a choice that inherently leads to the exclusion of some other, often more exigent, alternative.

The implications of choice are brilliantly explored by an author named Malcolm Gladwell, who penned the wildly successful, The Tipping Point, and Blink. He examines the nature of choosing, and how frequently our choices originate in unconscious bias. So, not only is the convention of choosing questionable, but what informs that choice is equally dubious.

Gladwell cites a compelling psychological study in which a group of students are given a choice between two art pieces; a poster depicting cuddly kittens, and an Impressionist painting. The first half of the group is simply told to choose, while the second half is told they’ll have to explain their choice afterwards.

The first group almost invariably chooses the more complex Impressionist piece, while the second group favours the aesthetically one-dimensional kittens.

It is not, upon closer study, because kittens are better liked, but because the test subjects feel intimidated by the prospect of having to explain their choice. Despite their desire to own the more complex piece, they unconsciously choose the one that is less challenging to the collective norm.

As one gay man, a 38-year old participant of the “Unlearning Biphobia” workshop facilitated by Robin Ochs in the Fall of 1993, explains his choice4;

Coming out as gay was the hardest and most painful thing I have ever done in my life. Now I’m finally at a place where I have a solid identity, a community, a place to call home. Bisexuals make me uncomfortable because their existence raises for me the possibility that I might be bisexual myself. And coming to terms with my identity was so hard for me the first time around, I cringe at the thought of having to go through such a long, hard, painful process a second time.

For most bisexuals, coming out of the closet with one fell swoop is an impossible luxury. You do it once, shut the door behind you and that’s that. Such is not the case when you’re bi; it is more like an infinite hallway of swinging doors that hit you in the ass as you go through every one. Coming out must be repeated at every step, in every new environment, to every friend and of course, to each new lover.

Every time a bisexual “changes sides”, he or she not only faces potential rejection by the new community, but will also have to navigate the sense of reproach, betrayal and confusion of the one that’s left behind. If that weren’t challenging enough, there are always the persistent feelings of fraudulence most bisexuals experience upon ‘switching’. Just as the outside world questions their loyalty, so too is this doubt parroted on the inside. Being bisexual, not unlike the word itself, is to be a fast expert of the crossroads.

As Ruth Gibian, clinical therapist and author, states, “'Bi’ is two, implying a split, two parts and no whole.5

Here, in our language, begins the problem of invisibility. For how can something with no whole exist in a climate that worships certainty? In another example, the word ‘middling’ has been similarly bastardized. Though its roots are in the intermediary soil between extremes, its contemporary definition is synonymous with mediocrity.

Perhaps it would be helpful if we began to look at bisexuality less like a fissure between gay and straight and more as a conduit through which both can flow. If we can learn something from the human rights movement, it is that biracial individuals embody the combined history of both sides. Their very existence erases the line of racial demarcation. If we learn to carry the experience of both, maybe the fence will evolve into a bridge between us.

Like the heroic King Christian, whose gesture was, in its axis, a protest against delineation, maybe if we all stand up, then none of us will stand out.

Marking Bisexual Pride Day

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We are proud to call ourselves bisexual. We are proud to be national bisexual leaders with a long history of working for our community. The gains that the LGBT community has seen in the last decade are truly remarkable, and as freedom rings, so too do the cries of those who will not be left behind.
Bisexuals have a pride flag, safe spaces, researchers, advocates, experts, celebrities, and authors. We march in pride parades; paint our nails purple, pink and blue; and suffer the ignominy of being identified as people of privilege instead of the folks more likely to suffer disparities (no matter if we're married to straight people or not!). After decades of research we have finally begun to be understood as a community in dire need of specific approaches and interventions in areas like health, bullying, mental health, domestic/partner violence, HIV/AIDS, and the workplace.
Like many bisexuals, we ourselves have suffered discrimination in our workplace (see Faith's video on her experiences for the Center for American Progress here) and have been bullied and told we don't exist. We have survived breast cancer (see Ellyn's interview here) and sought assistance for the bad days brought on by the severe mental stress associated with being a person invalidated and unrecognized by society. We have every right to an existence that is celebrated and honored, just as much as any person who has loved any other person on this Earth.
Today, we and other leaders from the bisexual community will be attending a briefing at the White House on the issues impacting our community. It's a good day when our government reaches out to a community like ours that is facing systemic and institutionalized discrimination.
It's a better world when we have opportunities to directly dialogue with U.S. government agencies and other representatives of the LGBT community on some of the most urgent needs of our often-erased and stigmatized community.